Hope for single ladies

[Ghost14]

Re: Hope for single ladies

@PyariCgudia

Ghost: she can marry my cousin and I have nothing against that. In fact happy that she is coming into our family. She is a smart girl. You’re missing the point. It’s not about being happy for a couple, it’s pointing out obvious examples of how the genders are skewed. That girls sister is married to a real backwards mullah who has a job in Egypt. She had to move to another country. That’s how desperate their mom was to marry off her daughters. Had these girls been guys, the rishta scene would have been drastically different.

But was the girl forced? If she agreed to the rishta then it’s not a case of genders being skewed, it’s a case of different priorities. You repeatedly cite careers as being attractive, but that only works for men (in attracting women). Historically, and really at its cynical core, marriage is a barter between men and women: security for sex. Granted, this is extreme. Now that women can work, the world is different, but our desires are not. Would you marry a moderately religious, nice, respectable guy if he only had a trade job? What if he was intelligent but unmotivated and only earned a fraction of what you made? You repeatedly insult men who don’t have careers and then go on to state that men have to do nothing to get married and woe be to the successful women who fail to get hitched.

Those educated desi guys who married non-Muslim girls just played the game right. The fact is that society lies to women in telling them that their career will get them married. Your career is important, and I would encourage every woman to be financially independent, but don’t play the rishta game like a man. Your career only signifies character attributes about you, but very rarely will a guy marry a woman for the fact that she has x career.