Hope for single ladies

parisbynight · August 28, 2014, 4:11pm

Re: Hope for single ladies

Ghost: she can marry my cousin and I have nothing against that. In fact happy that she is coming into our family. She is a smart girl. You’re missing the point. It’s not about being happy for a couple, it’s pointing out obvious examples of how the genders are skewed. That girls sister is married to a real backwards mullah who has a job in Egypt. She had to move to another country. That’s how desperate their mom was to marry off her daughters. Had these girls been guys, the rishta scene would have been drastically different.

Paris: I can relate to your older sister but being grouchy at the wedding time or ruining it for her new sister in law is not fair.

These are not the only stories out there. Countless girls are having to settle for second rate idiots. And if they don’t settle then they remain alone. For a lot of us that is the only choice we have : marry a moron and beat your head for the rest of your life or…what I chose to do - build yourself, be self reliant, and hope that you find someone along the way knowing you might never find anyone.

I meet guys and I decide to move forward but someone mentioned this and I think they’re right. I look for reasons to break it off because at the end of the day my heart is not into it. If they have a thick accent, talk like an uncle, they’re really out if shape, they don’t have a job, they want me to sponsor their green card, they want to control finances, they want their mom to control the show, they want me to give up my job (hell no, if they drop me off at a curb what am I gonna do without a job?), etc, then being alone is better to me than being with the above.

Difference is that most guys, despite their huge faults, don’t find themselves in these positions. Even the **poor working class guys **in Pakistan usually get a lovely little wifey.

[FONT=Times New Roman]at bold: says a lot about you a as person. Haven’t met you in person but judging only from your post on GS, I am afraid to say that you do not come across as an open minded or humble person. For god sake, you are complaining about a poor working class guy having a pretty wife or a fat guy marrying an aishwarya rai look alike as if it was the worst crime to be poor or fat.

I say give up. Your mind has fixated the idea that everyone is beneath your league one way or the other..for all the reasons you have stated in red. Marriage isn’t for all and like you said, sometime one is happier alone. So show it! At this time, you do not seem like a happy person and you seem to waste your time analyzing the lifestyle and relationship of all the ‘morons’ around you. Mind your own business and you will find happiness.

Be happy and kind to people around you. Any guy / guy’s mother or even person who is showing likeness towards you should be considered as a blessing…not an insult! You rejecting him/the family is you’re own right..but stop right there. No need to start the ‘did they really think I will settle for THAT’ attitude.

And you realized that what my sister is doing isnt fair, so it might be time to realize that it is also unfair that you brand all the girls who have settled for less than their ‘ideal’ as wife’s of morons and second rate idiots . Just because you would have rejected these guys, doesn’t mean another girl will necessarily think the same way as you. Your ‘ideal’ choice is not this world’s benchmark!

Oh and stop blaming the community for not helping you out. All the rishtas that come to you are not through YOU because if it was..it would have been a love marriage and story finished…these rishtas are referred from someone you know thus your community. People are helping you. You are not accpeting their ‘kind’ of help.

Last post from me to you on this topic.