I don’t know if it’s just me, but who thinks spending between $20,000-$40,000 on a honey moon for about 6 days is excessive?? When I mentioned that is a lot of dough to shell out, she replied “it’s my honeymoon”.
My friends are getting married in a few months and she just told me that’s how much it will cost to go to the carribean islands, or something similar (because they want the villa, and upgraded everything etc) ..
I don’t know.. I think they are stupid for spending this money on a trip, when they can use that money to buy a house instead (their plan once the wedding is over), or save up for the kid they are planning to have after the wedding.. because once preggeres, the girl will be quitting her job for good and will rely on husband’s sole income for everything..
Now, they make about $140,000 together a year and are lavish spenders in general- going to the bahamas for example, to celebrate a birthday… there wedding alone is costing them $40,000, and they are paying for everything themselves.. good for them..
But, I think in a way, some people forget that it’s not about the wedding, it’s about the marriage that people should focus on. Tomorrow, no one will remember what color your backdrop was, or how the napkins were folded, or how many centerpieces you had. This same girl also told me a few weeks ago that she doesn’t want to get married (this was a 100% love alliance with her pushing to get married since last year, and now all of a sudden says she doesn’t want to, but is going through with it anyway.)
Are my standards just low? Or is spending 20-40k ON A HONEYMOON is justifiable?
Obviously they can do whatever they want. Im not here to stop them.
This forum is to have have discussions about real and/or hypothetical events and thoughts on things. Hence, my post. You telling me “it is her honeymoon, with her moneys.enough said” is not a discussion
You know a lot of people are adopting this practice to have the least number of invitees in wedding and hence saving a lot of money, even the venue/food is not so lavish but then they spend a lot of money on honya moonya. But usually its like a more liberal style and those people are more outgoers or travellers.
In this case, I just find it hard to figure out where they’ll be spending 40k in 6 days. Now since you said its 20-40k, its a big window but even if u take an average i think 30k is good money to spend in 6 days. Even a cruise trip doesnt take that much.
OP, I think you and I are a little lost in numbers..
Its the lodging/tickets that are costing that much .. not sure if food is included .. But anything else is extra..
That range is for one location which is 40k, the lowest (so far) is 20k, for 6 days…
Yeah i guess we are lost lollllll..
I just think its a bit much, but thats just me.. Thats why i was curious to see if others do the same/similar
That’s a lot of money, could pay for a college education or a nice whip. I think they’re being extra cause that’s way too much to spend on a vacation when they’re combine household income is 140k, it wouldn’t be such a big deal if they’re were making half a mil. How much is “extra” depends on what you’re making and how much your living expenses are.
My BIL/SIL spent about 10K during a weekend trip to the Bahamas last year. For people who have money and are willing to spend it, coming up with ways to spend it is not a problem.
As for your cruise comment, that applies to cheap ones like Carnival and if you’re being frugal about everything. Otherwise, when you’re booking more nicer cruise lines like Crystal and get a penthouse suite with veranda/butler service, fly business class to get to the departing city, do VIP excursions, do plenty of local shopping without worrying about how you’re going to get the items back home etc…hitting 30K for a cruise can happen in a heartbeat.
A couple of my friends got married right out of uni and their spouses just started their jobs so they went to something closer and it didn’t cost as much. Older friends went to more extravagant destinations. It really depends on your priorities and what your financial goals are.
The experience and companionship is most important!
I think it’s nicer to have shorter and more frequent trips especially if you’re more adventurous and like having less routine in life and it provides more chances to grow your worldview and personality.
Many people have empty lives and they think throwing money at it will bring them happiness. I have seen divorces right after very expensive weddings and honeymoons and I have seen flourishing relationships without any expense. My brothers first wedding everyone spent loads of money and the marriage failed. Second was a civil marriage and going strong with two amazing children.
Exactly bobby1 !! The bride to be, a few weeks ago was so upset because they are already having alot of problems which she thinks will somehow magically improve once they are married, but the issues she is having for example are, she doesnt feel the same love for her fiance anymore, she hates her in laws (and they will be living with her), doesnt want her sis in law at the wedding otherwise hell will break loose .. just issues ..
Yet this honeymoon is so important, and if its not expensive, it wont be good enough
Everything in life can be costly if you have the $ and are willing to spend it. I can buy a purse at Target for $30 or spend $20,000 on a Birkin. I can buy a pair of simple black pumps at DSW shoes for $40 or spend $1000 at Saks Fifth Avenue. I can fly to Dubai in a cramped coach seat in Emirates or fly first class and get my own private space. I can buy a Revlon lipstick for $6 or buy a YSL lipstick for $37. The list goes on. Taking a cruise or another type of vacation is no different. Luxury items/options exist in pretty much every aspect of life for those who are willing to spend.
many people with empty hollow lives measure success with money whereas simple things like holding your lover’s hand and just walking in a park cost nothing and can make you happy. I used to stay in very expensive resorts and the one vacation my wife raves about to everyone is when we camped in port au cove with ocean in the front and mountains in the back. Cost us 35 dollars a night, made tea and food on a campfire.
