Looking around in the forum I’ve realized honeymoon has almost become a must nowadays. What do you think? is a wedding incomplete without it? So I’m wondering is there anyone who had any objections from the inlaws or their own family when they were planning their honeymoon? I’ve heard of a few cases in real life, but I cannot imagine it happening though.
In my family I’ve never seen a couple going on honeymoon (from my uncles and aunts) and my bro didnt go on honeymoon either as we flew to Europe a few weeks after his wedding with his wife. ..
Ahh, yes. Honeymoons.
Lets see here. The answer is 'no'. They're certainly not a must. It depends on each couple, their families, and of course their budgets. Don't feel pressurized to go on one just because you feel like you 'have' to -- Unless, of course, you 'want' to. Also, just because your brother didn't go on one or your uncles didn't, in no way, means you shouldn't. Now if you have an arranged marriage, a honeymoon is an excellent idea..! During your honeymoon, you can really get to know one another and spend exclusive time with each other. Its a time for the couple to bond and make a special connection that is almost impossible to make if you start living a day to day life right after the valima. If its a love marriage, its also a wonderful opportunity to catch up, to laugh and cherish wedding memories and to spend some quality time as a couple that you longed for as an engaged couple.
So you should decide for yourself. Talk to your fiance. See what the two of you want, not what has or hasn't happened in the past. Remember, you plan on marrying just once, and you don't want to miss out on the romantic details of your marriage.
Peace.
Like my fiance once talked me where I want to go for it? And I was like I have absolutely no idea... and then he said why not IRAN?! And my first response was: "What heck! Is this a place to go. Jana hi ha tu log Switzerland jaatay hain"... And he was like there are visa problems there, and dont have time for this.. Iran is pretty lovely place, and we can spend time in Northern areas too...
**Though nothing is yet sure.. Yet what I have in my mind is, go for some 3-4 days right after walima, and let both families settle back to their normal, so that when you're back, they both welcome you warmly... Rest I have NO LONG plans... I want to spend as much time with my family and his, as much as I can! because we then have flight after couple of weeks.
heres the thing: if you really dont want to go on a honeymoon and your fiance does or you need it to be a low budget one, do a quick two day getaway somewhere close by! the idea is to wind down after a long stressful wedding (well, at least mine is) so doesnt matter where you go, how far you go, but in my opinion i think it helps relax you a bit with your hubby.......
A honeymoon doesn't necessarily mean that you have to jet off on an expensive overseas holiday to some far flung place.
A honeymoon is important so that you have the time to relax and get to know each other and spend some time chilling out after the stress of the wedding and it's preparations.
Your honeymoon could be a 3 night break in a country house hotel or a 2 week stay in the maldives........................it depends on so much. Like for example if you both work then how much time you are able to get as holiday.
It's probably better to have the honeymoon straight/or ASAP after the valima so you don't get dragged into the humdrum of daily life (or the clearing up after the wedding!!!!!!!!)
I know a couple who got married 2 weeks before Ramzan and went for Umraah the week after their Valima and stayed until after eid.
I also know a couple who had to wait for a Visa for the husband and so had a small honeymoon in the UK paid for by family and then went off on an overseas honeymoon 2 weeks later....(Personally I think the small honeymoon was unecessary as neither had a proper job anyway...and even after the 2nd honeymoon the were still off work for about 4 weeks!)
I myself couldn't go overseas due to not being able to get as much time as we wanted off from work, plus we were moving to the other end of the Country...so we went for a honeymoon in the UK and enjoyed it loads. It was just a chance to relax and enjoy each others company.
Its not amust, but would be very nice. Like someone else said it doesn't necessarily have to be lavish & far away. The key is to spend some time together...alone and chill out. Its better to have it close after the wedding. My cousin didn't have a honeymoon right after...and l;ater they just got so caught up with work/life etc.....and didnt get to go. Post wedding you should go out and enjoy...even if all you do is stay nearby and just do touristy stuff, at least it'll be together.
you dont have to..you should go when you are ready...and out of the formal/awkward phase...(if you dont know him at all)...it will be more fun..
we are not going right away either...settling down in a new city will be our priority.....honeymoon will follow..Inshallah!
honeymoon is a must. its a great time to get to know the person and get all the wedding stress off ur shoulders. and u wont have ur relatives there. im not getting married if i dnt get a honeymoon.
Honeymoon is a must, location can always be adjusted according to time off and income and immigration issues. After hte wedding u need those few days/week(s) to just chill out and have fun with the hubby. It’s usually not a good idea to put off a trip til later because circumstances/fortunes/minds etc change and then it becomes hard to do. I’m so glad we went on ours.. i wnana go on a honeymoon every year if i could
the thing is after the spending so much on our wedding ceremonies and than esp if you get your own place with new furniture, etc = sometimes its difficult to want to allocate that for the honeymoon, esp with new finances blooming with your new lives together
a part of me does not want to b/c of all the expenses, but than everyone encourages you :D and it is a once in a life time deal = you'll never be newlywed again
I keep swaying back and forth about whether I go or not lol
its not a must, but wot a better way to start ur wedding life...together & alone, gives u a chance to unwind & destress esp after alll the wedding preps & i think the best feeling is that your away from everyone... honeymoon dsnt have to be long or expensive, just enjoy eachothers company in whatever you choose to do...
personally i feel girls who will be living with their in laws (like myself) we def need that time x
