Honesty is best policy

[Paheli00]

Re: Honesty is best policy

@Rehman01

With that said. We have been married for 15 years now. Our oldest is 10 and younges is 4. I want to understand more.
Per the conversations, I’ve begged my husband to teach the children Punjabi/Urdu because if he doesn’t then it does with him and they can’t carry on the language. It’s not important that they marry desi but it is important they marry a Muslim. However, that aside my husband hasn’t taught any of them one letter of the alphabet. I’ve begged him to put the children in Islamic SUNDAY school at the very least…nope. I also want to learn Urdu/Punjabi myself…I would love to have a conversation with his mother one day.

Why does your husband have to put the children in Islamic Sunday school? Why can’t you enroll them? Did your husband tell you that he didn’t want you to enroll them?

As for kids learning Punjabi/Urdu, if your husband doesn’t want to teach them, you can’t for him (obviously). Does your 10-year show any interest in learning the language?

I also find it surprising that after 15 YEARS, you have not learned some basic Punjabi/Urdu words where you can ask your MIL how she’s doing and stuff like that. Does your city not have a active Pakistani community? Your husband doesn’t have any other family members (sister, cousin, brother’s wife etc.) who speaks English and can help you learn basic Urdu/Pakistani? You haven’t been able to find a single online resource where you can teach yourself basic Punjabi/Urdu? Have you ever Googled this or looked up videos on YouTube?