Re: Honest
Even if a background check is done by asking the potential’s family members or acquaintances sometimes isn’t helpful though because some people are so good at hiding important information. I experienced a situation where the guy had a psychological disorder of of extreme anxiety where he sweats and can’t really function for those few seconds but his immediate family did everything in their power to hide it even if some people said that he was rumored to having a mental disorder. Of course in the old country the words used were “crazy” so you don’t know if it’s just a rumor or just idle gossip. If his mother was asked point blank, is there something we need to know about the guy like medical history or any other issues about him, she revealed nothing. Mental health is still something we hide and are ashamed of it. It’s sad that his own family feels that it’s something shameful that needs to be hidden.
So, to answer your question, I don’t think there’s a concrete way of making sure if people are honest when it comes to the marriage settings.