Hi,
So my husband wants to move to pak for his mother, even though his mother is living a good life there with her daughter and her family.She doesnt want him to move. My semester is about to start and i realllyyy dont want to go to pak and live in a joint family. He just wants to go for few months to see how things work out and if we get settled there otherwise we will come back but the idea is soooo stupid if we dont get settled we have to come back and then his mother will still be there with her daughter, he is just not thinking or what.. i hav eto sell all my furniture and basically wind up everything i have here 
and its so costly to go there we had sooo many arguments but he is just not getting it specially that i will miss my semester is really upsetting me..should i go with him or should i just stay and let him go because i know he will be back in a month or 2 but i dont want him to go by himself either and i dont want to go either… pleaseeee helpppp my mom and friends are telling me to go with him and i want too but then my school.
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*Why don't you guys call his mum over to live with you? *
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thats what i said it would be so much easier, but she doesn't want to come :((((
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One semester or one year of your academic life is not a big deal in the greater scheme of things. Go with him, if you don't - he may very well come back, but he might resent and blame you for not being able to settle there.
Out of curiosity, how long have you lived abroad? How long has he been abroad? Did you guys discuss the possibility of moving back before you got married?
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i have been living here for more than 10 years, he 11 and he never thought about moving to pak but for some reason now he wants to go there and see how things will be, and he even says that he is not going there for life may be a year the most depending on job situations, i am so sad i dont want to go :( i am so used to my own space
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^ Is this your last semester? If not how many semesters until you finish?
How is your relationship with your MIL?
Do you know how your MIL takes her chai? J/k j/k... maybees
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Is your current house on rent? Why do you have to sell everything and move to Pakistan? As he said, he may change his mind in a few months so you never know.
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i still have 1 and a half year of school left, we are renting and our lease expires next month and off coarse i cant leave my furniture in storage coz we dont know how long we will stay there so thats y have to sell ..my relationship with my MIL is good but my SIL lives there with her family too and she has control over everything i am used to living alone and doing my own thing .
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Which country are you settled in right now? And what are you studying? I feel for you, really I do. I wouldn't be comfortable about going.
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Don't be afraid of your SIL. Go read nnabid's thread which was unjustly closed. Treat your SIL as your pet. Be gentle with her, do her khidmat. And if SIL doesn't stop biting, remember that pets can be put down.
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If its just a month or two then why don't u want him to go alone? A month or two doesn't sound like he would really be settling there? Either way I don't think missing 1 semester at school is such a big deal unless u have other constraints like time/money. And why does he want to move for a year at the most? Isn't it such a hassle winding up and moving each time, resigning from his job here, finding a new one there.
Has something changed recently? mom's gotten ill or family having trouble with finances, or sis used to take care of mom but now she has other priorities. If he's just missing his mom then maybe u guys can just go for a vacation instead of moving there.