Home Schooling

Making the decision to homeschool is usually very difficult and not one to be taken lightly.


*** It is a personal decision that some parents make that requires a lot of time commitment , as well as financial and personal constraints since one of the parents has to stay home so may affect a household that is used to two incomes .***


Also it limits the child’s social interaction with peers and makes social adjustment more complex later on so a delicate balance is required to make sure the child is exposed to all the proper social contacts.



However a lot of parents are choosing to homeschool .




Would you consider homeschooling for your children ?

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While some people love the idea, I wouldn't consider it. I have looked into it, I even have friends homeschooling their kids, but I guess I like school.

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happen to know a few folks who do. one does it because the kid has a medical condition. the rest are paranoid about the world and its agenda on their kids - most of them are religious christians, and one is a hippie couple. their kids get plenty of social exposure, but only with likeminded people.

i dont think i'd ever do it to my kids. the most fun years of my life so far have been school days. and it'd be selfish and overprotective of me to deny my kids the same exposure.

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Whatever the reasons in favor of home schooling, my point is we are not living in 6th century, Period.

The today's society is buildup on the globalization, if kids just stick to tv lounge & their bedroom they can't compete with the lot outside. So this whole idea of Home Schooling is flawed in current world, maybe it looks reasonable 40 years ago but not today. Be it in west or in some remote village of Pakistan. !

***seems all of California will have to home school.............

so they can balance their Budget.........:(

beside saving on school buildings and teachers salaries.........I think the disadvantages to young children.....of not enough social interaction may out weigh the cost of public schooling..................

in-adequate schooling can be blamed for the current situation in Pakistan to some extent!


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i have seen some people do it but i havent seen it done successfully thus far. as in parents get lazy, the education gets neglected or the social grooming doesnt take place. i guess it depends on the child and the environment.
in one case one women opted for homeschool when her daughter was excessively bullied and when she tried talking to other parents, she herself got beaten up. now i think she made a wise decision in going for homeschooling. the area and the school in which ur child is imp.

The above is my biggest reservation with the idea of homeschooling.

I think there is value in diversity of experiences and thought, and I think a public school is more likely to deliver this diversity.

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I believe Homeschooling is the best option for children though its not possible for every parent to undertake this responsibility.

There's only one problem I'm facing with educating our kids at home is that we don't get any motivation and support from any relatives and friends, we hear things like "alienating the kids", "overprotection" "deprivation" etc etc all the time. Schooling families have no idea how much fun there is in having your children flourishing in front of your eyes because they haven't really looked into it.

Also, I chose the Classical method of teaching because it's been taught only in Elite Schools and Elite Schooling is only for Elite class (atleast in the West) and also I want to raise ethical and religious kids and want to have control over choosing their role models.

More than 50% children taught in Secular schools leave the faith of their parents when reach adulthood and I believe modern schooling have failed to instill the moral values and ethics in children. I want my kids to be just good muslims and it'd be hard if they go to a modern school.

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No. I would opt someone to WORK from home, but not for schooling.
There are atleast a hundred things which a child learn just by 'going to a school', let alone 'learn something at school'....

When u say classical method of teaching.... the one that's taught only in the Elite ones... can u explain what kind of method are u referring to... ???

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My children will one day be free to learn from wherever they wish to do so (within reason offcourse).

However thier martial training will be dealt with at home. No child of mine will be a weakling....... Allah na kare but even if they are disabled or destined for a life of pain they will not be weak, they will need to be strong to survive this dog eat dog world.

Aside to this i will teach them Respect, Humanity, Humour(within limits) , Humility and above all the moral and ethical codes by which i have lived.

Anything else they can seek out themselves, i would love to teach my kids all i know at home, but the final choice is thiers i will only start them on the basics.

The rest should be up to them.

There is a saying here: You can take a horse to water, but you cannot make it drink.

Afterall it is up to the child in the end to seek out it's own path, all as a parent we can do is to guide it to the water. If it chooses to drink elsewhere then there is nothing more i can do.

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Home schooling can work, and work really well if its done right. I take some heat for keeping my youngest home this year and doing his preschool work with him. He'll start kindergarten in Sept and I think thats fine. I cant do homeschooling - forget about bio, I dropped out when the frog autopsy chapter started lol! And trigonometry? I dont remember the first thing about it (except that a triangle has 3 sides lol!) Anyway,, the older years would be so much tougher than the younger years.

Hareem, the classical education of the elite - it sounds great but maybe later on you should temper it a bit with some of the more contemporary approach. Schools for the elite are geared toward royalty, diplomats, jet-setting high society...the type of people who for their life career will be philanthropists, hold diplomatic posts, hold government offices and/or sit on the board of directors for major corporations. It doesnt prepare the "typical" person for a "typical" life yeah? Its wonderful for their younger years but as they get into their older years you may want to shift the focus a bit....just a thought :)

...not that I'm implying your kids will never be philanthropists or heads of state...they very well might!

Wow, very interesting thoughts Mamaof3. I never really thought about this but now i've got something to talk about with my hubby. thanks :)

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^good on you hareem, i dont exactly look down at people who homeschool, i just havent seen any who has done it successfully. but then again i guess that is a lightly baised perception on my part since i have seen plenty of school going children that arent clearly being schooled in any sense of the word.

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I will consider all aspects before deciding.

Homeschooling, if done well by serious and committed parents, can be very successful, and many homeschoolers go on to top tier universities. There are home schooling co-ops in most large cities, and programs at local universities, libraries, and the YMCA, and so on. There is no reason for a homeschooler to not be adequately socialized if the parents make a real effort.

That said, most parents are not capable of homeschooling, due to lack of personal knowledge, organization, or social awareness. I looked into homeschooling several years ago, and we decided to try supplementary education instead.

We have been using "The well trained mind: a guide to classical education at home", (Susan Wise) and "The well-read mind: a guide to the classical education you never had"(Susan Wise-Bauer) as guides, and are focusing on logic right now.

A classical education has so many benefits, the greatest being a maturity of thought that is not taught in the public system. I would urge you Hareem to continue with this approach. It isn't simply about learning the classics, it is about learning how to think (grammar, logic and rhetoric).

Peace Mamaof3

I would like to thank you for all the encouraging words you have been giving my wife for the past few months on this topic. I also commend your proactive prowess in the domain of educating your young ones. The philosophy that we like to utilise stems from our religion which tells us that we should seek knowledge from the cradle to the grave.

Homeschooling is brilliant for this as we can crystalise our learning and solidify our understandings as and when we need to introduce learning material to our children. We will be thinking about subjects more intimately and as my wife is proving to herself she is learning alongside our children, albeit in a different way to when she was a child.

Homeschooling classics to us is more than just teaching dated material, rather it is about accessing the wisdom of the ages. It is more in line with the method of learning rather than the content. So to express my first point is that we will indeed be subjecting our children to contemporary material, however, they will acquire that material in a manner which is in line with the classical models.

For us the concepts are important and we wish our children to develop a relationship with their knowledge, rather than use their brains like computer processors regurgitating information in order to answer questions on an exam paper, we want the knowledge they hold to be weighty enough to move their hearts in and stimulating enough to make them act upon the edicts of that knowledge.

We want them to love to learn and hence the latter years of homeschooling will mean they will exceed us in knowledge, but we hope they will use us to engage with our experiences colouring their understandings giving them the ability to make just decisions. We wish for them to carry knowledge like one carries a treasure i.e. with a sense of burden and respect.

We will provide for them mentors in areas that they wish to excel in and will constantly challenge them to learn more and act upon what they learn. Elite schooling has a basis in this world of educating that control as an integral piece in the jigsaw puzzle of the New World Order can be effective, but we wish to provide the same opportunities not so our children can be controllers within the system of control, rather to rise above the controllers and provide access to humanity that there is a life outside control. The red pill that will take them out of the Matrix not to create disorder but to show the light of self-discipline and control over oneself. Fear of nothing except The Judge, The Just, to teach them a world of virtue beyond consequence that ethical beahviour means to act righteously without the potential penalties looming over us, that to be rich one must be altruistic and content with little.

Unfortunately none of these values are being reflected in contemporary education. However, elite schooling although does not do this either it does in fact teach the skills necessary to move masses and create fellowship and leadership, pragmatism, oratory. Crtical thinking can be obtained within the framework of contemporary education however at a muted level. The aspiration and class based thinking is itself a symptom of the mental shackles of the modern education system that we wish to break, in ourselves and in our children.

As amana has already said that Grammar, Logic and Rhetoric are the steps that classical education teaches. These are fine tuned and proven methods dating back to the times of the Greek philosophers. Where many children will have academics on their CVs we wish our children to have capabilities on their CVs. Time being an important asset but not a limited one. Learning for us is life long and where school may have made us dislike certain subjects homeschooling may lead us to appreciate them in the long run.

This is the reason why we are doing what we are doing it is mainly because we are not content until we maximise the faculties that we have been given, tempered against the values we must uphold. We pray that our children grow to become leaders of the pious people of this world, as the Qur'an teaches us to aspire to these ends.

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Psyah, your children are truly blessed to have parents like you and Ms Hareem. Inshallah, they will turn out to be great leaders and great adults due to the efforts put forth by the two of you. Although home-schooling isnt the best option for all, its certainly the very best option for those who do it right and do it well....like the two of you.

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I think after middle school , child should do home schooling instead of going to public school. Childrens who are enrolled in home schooling program are intend to finish thier school quiker than public school as well as they are intend to get more knowledge and intellectual wise more challange then regular school. Its not that expensive either there is certain fees for a year and i do believed home schooling program is based on california, i am not exactly sure about that. I have known people who did home schooling and they are 18-19 years old and already done with college bachlor degree and very stable in such a early age of thier life.

I admire you for being able to home-school your children, as it's not everyone's cup of tea. Granted that education is a big part of the child's schooling, but how do you ensure that your children have interaction with other children? I think the biggest reason I'm against homeschooling is because the kids don't get the opportunity to be with other children and communicate/play with them. And I believe that's one the biggest things to a child's upbringing and how they are formed.

Just out of curiosity, how do you work around this hareem?