Just curious.
How many of you gentlemen are OK with staying at home while your wife goes and brings home the dough?
:halo:
It really depends sometimes people like that.There is no shame in it if you are a home maker and wife is a doc.I think people shouldn't feel shame in it but again its everyone's personal choice how they handle it.
I knew this was coming but at that thread I never said its a bad thing I asked that it might be a problem for some people but not to everyone.
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lol UZ. where am i saying this is a bad thing? i too am merely interested in if you'd say "home boys" are normal.
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well if they aren't normal, it would be "bad" wouldn't it?
This may not be normal as in constituting a norm, a standard pattern but there is nothing wrong or bad about it.
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i dont know pal. i think UZ's previous posts says "not normal" just means "it might be a problem for some people but not to everyone."
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Not me!
wife stays home... Or there are only certain fields she could work in.
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i wish
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I know lots of homeboys
Don’t know about gentlemen being okay with it or not but I am definitely not attracted to/okay with permanently unemployed men.
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No! i want to be the one who stays home and don't deal with outside crap.
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In this day in age with the economy being the way it is... more and more men are willing to stay home to care for kids rather then spend on babysitting/day care if wife is making more money. Nothing wrong with that. You gotta do what you gotta do to make ends meet.
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ok, so where are these men. come forth.
you can submit your application in my inbox. thanks.
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"Home Boy" sounds rather gay. And the whole idea is quite disturbing for a traditional typical paindoo like myself.
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I wish I could live like the lions..someday! ;-)
Can't find the cartoon I had showing.. Four Lions playing cards and in the background lioness running after a prey. **
Caption: One lion to other three saying: What do you think guys, should we continue after lunch? **:-)
Just imagine.
(Edited for better understanding)
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eemmmmm ..... what?
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Marketing and using catchy terms is key. Instead of seeking applications for home boys, one would fare better seeking applications for Home Maintenance Engineers ;-)
Even though in my family my mother also worked in education, in my parent's generation most saw it to be the role of a man to provide for the family. While gender roles are somewhat in flux, this societal expectation of men is still widely held.
Could I do it? I am unsure. My reluctance with the idea comes partially from this societal expectation, and partially because I would want to do something else that engages me. I don't know; perhaps I could be a writer and work from home to write all kinds of best sellers ;-)
In my opinion, the societal expectations place greater pressure on men to seek professional success amongst different things, and greater pressure on women with respect to physical appearance amongst different things. Thus the questions in the OP makes for an interesting juxtaposition with a handle that affirms one trait on which feminity might be based per societal pressures and a question that encourages challenging one trait on which masculinity might be based per societal pressures.
Back when I was in uni - I took a gender studies course and for all of two days - when I was feeling enlightened and advocating the equality of the sexes - I was of the opinion that men were just as entitled to stay home as women and take a sabatical from work to find themselves.
Thank goodness my moment of enlightenment was shortlived...
That beng said, I've had 4 male colleagues take parental leave in the last year and half - here the wife gets a generous maternity leave and the husband can if he wants split the leave period with his wife. My colleagues spent any where from 1 to 4 months at home with their newborns. The reasons varied from demands from wife's work that she come back early to work on projects to the husband wanting to spend some quality time with their child.
I think the answer is it depends. If the husband is staying home because he is better able to care for kids (it makes better financial sense for her to continue working and they can't afford to take a pay cut) his staying home could be considered. But if he's going to be a househusband and eat bonbons all day (with no real need/reason to stay home) then it doesn't seem right. Gender equality is great on paper - but doesn't hold up in real life.