Holiday Gifts for Your Child's Teachers

[Sajalina]

Re: Holiday Gifts for Your Child’s Teachers

At first the objection was receiver will find gift givers intentions fake. When I told you they don’t always who the gift came from it turned to “Why do you gift on christmas, why not another day?”. Then it was if you are gifting you should make it clear.

Sorry I don’t agree with anything you said.

Ps: last but not least if someone is going to question my sincerity then that is their problem not mine.

@diwana

lol

Sure. I think my point is being missed despite I have been very clear.

You have not answered my questions. That’s OK.

All I said is that when there is any chance of sincerity being questioned and giving gift can backfire, then it should be avoided.

In your case, since you are spending money then you should let the person know it is you who has sincere feelings about that person and nothing wrong with that.

Moreover, at least there is one person who knows you might not be following your beliefs and just being the person who is trying to conform to the cultural requirement. (Assuming you do not believe in Christianity or Christmas).

If you believe in X-mas like Christians do, then never mind.

[diwana]

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More Muslims try to mimic others, more they get disrespected.

Non-Muslims do not try to mimic Muslims and they are more respected around the world.

[diwana]

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@Sajalina

At first the objection was receiver will find gift givers intentions fake. When I told you they don’t always who the gift came from it turned to “Why do you gift on christmas, why not another day?”. Then it was if you are gifting you should make it clear.

Sorry I don’t agree with anything you said.

Ps: last but not least if someone is going to question my sincerity then that is their problem not mine.

I am not trying to make you agree with me, nor I have shown anything I agree with you.

All I did was to show a different perspective and chance of being seen as a fake person. I even told you, it is your right to be known as the person who contributed to the gift.

If you do not agree, then all fine and dandy here. Some other reader may find benefit in it.

[Sajalina]

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@diwana

If you do not agree, then all fine and dandy here. Some other reader may find benefit in it.

Let’s hope so.

[diwana]

Re: Holiday Gifts for Your Child’s Teachers

@Sajalina

Let’s hope so.

Oh! so you decided to agree with me there.

[Sajalina]

Re: Holiday Gifts for Your Child’s Teachers

@diwana

Oh! so you decided to agree with me there.

It doesn’t make a difference to me whether you get someone benefitting from your views or not.

[diwana]

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@Sajalina

It doesn’t make a difference to me whether you get someone benefitting from your views or not.

But you still hoped for it. Enough for me there.

[Sajalina]

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Ok.

[diwana]

Re: Holiday Gifts for Your Child’s Teachers

Coming to the topic: I say there is no need to wait for any such occasions to show respect/love for anyone, just do it on random occasion and earn reciprocal respect.

Nothing wrong in giving gifts to the person of any faith or religion.

[Lusi]

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There is nothing wrong giving a teacher gift during the holiday season. All the gifts teachers get are greatly appreciated. There are teachers who go through difficult times and gifts like gift cards (to target/walmart) do really come handy especially during the holiday season. So people, even if you don’t celebrate Christmas/New year, do not hesitate gifting your teacher a little $10 gift card (if you can afford), you never know it might help her buy groceries for a day.
If you can, for sure gift your teacher a gift at Eid or any other day as well. However, giving a gift on a random day (without any event) might feel odd and might make the teacher uncomfortable unless it is a teachers appreciation day/week at school.

[diwana]

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@Lusi

There is nothing wrong giving a teacher gift during the holiday season. All the gifts teachers get are greatly appreciated. There are teachers who go through difficult times and gifts like gift cards (to target/walmart) do really come handy especially during the holiday season. So people, even if you don’t celebrate Christmas/New year, do not hesitate gifting your teacher **a little $10 gift card (if you can afford), you never know it might help her buy groceries for a day. **
If you can, for sure gift your teacher a gift at Eid or any other day as well. However, giving a gift on a random day (without any event) might feel odd and might make the teacher uncomfortable unless it is a teachers appreciation day/week at school.

Again I notice your post liked by a ghost member abemuf! Very interesting and intriguing.
This member’s job is to like posts out of nowhere it appears and stay quiet and shy.

Don’t you think in your zealous, cheesy and over-emotional comments you actually insulted the community of teachers and the profession of teaching?

I mean while talking about as little as ten dollars and buying grocery, you went too far to make a point.

**I thought we were talking about gift, not charity.
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Teachers are not beggars and don’t need gifts given out of pity. Have some respect for them. They nurture your kids along with you too.

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Glad you talked about Teacher appreciation day. That makes one ocassion where teachers can be given gifts without making them embarrassed.

People need to be creative and not be following others like sheep.

There are days and occasions where teachers can be given gifts such as

1- Whenever the child moves on to another grade.

2- Whenever the family makes an out of town trip (within the country or outside).

3- there are many times parent teacher meetings are held in various schools and those can be perfect times, when parents can give gifts to the teachers.

It is very odd that only holiday time would be chosen for the gifts for the teachers.

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Until now I was talking about in general when gifts would be given to the people of different faith or religions, since example of a bus driver was also given. This post was directed to teachers only.

[Lusi]

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@diwana

Again I notice your post liked by a ghost member abemuf! Very interesting and intriguing.
This member’s job is to like posts out of nowhere it appears and stay quiet and shy.

Don’t you think in your zealous, cheesy and over-emotional comments you actually insulted the community of teachers and the profession of teaching?

I mean while talking about as little as ten dollars and buying grocery, you went too far to make a point.

**I thought we were talking about gift, not charity.
**
Teachers are not beggars and don’t need gifts given out of pity. Have some respect for them. They nurture your kids along with you too.

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Glad you talked about Teacher appreciation day. That makes one ocassion where teachers can be given gifts without making them embarrassed.

People need to be creative and not be following others like sheep.

There are days and occasions where teachers can be given gifts such as

1- Whenever the child moves on to another grade.

2- Whenever the family makes an out of town trip (within the country or outside).

3- there are many times parent teacher meetings are held in various schools and those can be perfect times, when parents can give gifts to the teachers.

It is very odd that only holiday time would be chosen for the gifts for the teachers.

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Until now I was talking about in general when gifts would be given to the people of different faith or religions, since example of a bus driver was also given. This post was directed to teachers only.

I am a teacher as well, I have worked with teachers who had to leave their home and move to a low income housing complex. I have worked with teachers who have another job or two as the salaries are not as glamorous as politicians make them sound. For a teacher who is struggling to make ends meet, yes, $10 will buy the grocery for their dinner. Normally, parents barely have a clue about a teacher’s financial well being, however majority of teachers are aware of their parent’s financial issues and they make every effort to help those parents with all the possible resources that are available at the school. Oh and** if a teacher is not on a salaried contract but an hourly contract, she is not getting any salary during the holidays, which is the case with most preschools**. So if she gets 5 $10 gift cards, that $50 gift is very valuable to her. I am not degrading teachers. I am just educating parents.

Lastly, I am not discouraging from gift giving on other events like parent teacher conferences, end of the year, etc etc.

Oh and I don’t care which ghost member likes or dislikes my post. I am just giving my reasoning why we should think of our teachers during holiday season. It will not effect our faith as far as we understand what we believe in.

[Muzna]

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@diwana

Nothing wrong in giving gifts to the person of any faith or religion.

OMG…I found something to agree with!!!

[Muzna]

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@diwana

More Muslims try to mimic others, more they get disrespected.

Agreed.
But this is universal and not related only to Muslims that try to mimic.
kawwa chalay haans ki chaal waali misaal applies…

@diwana

Non-Muslims do not try to mimic Muslims and they are more respected around the world.

^Are you suggesting that non-Muslims are more respected around the world because they do not try to mimic Muslims?

[diwana]

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@Lusi

I am a teacher as well, I have worked with teachers who had to leave their home and move to a low income housing complex. I have worked with teachers who have another job or two as the salaries are not as glamorous as politicians make them sound. For a teacher who is struggling to make ends meet, yes, $10 will buy the grocery for their dinner. Normally, parents barely have a clue about a teacher’s financial well being, however majority of teachers are aware of their parent’s financial issues and they make every effort to help those parents with all the possible resources that are available at the school. Oh and** if a teacher is not on a salaried contract but an hourly contract, she is not getting any salary during the holidays, which is the case with most preschools**. So if she gets 5 $10 gift cards, that $50 gift is very valuable to her. I am not degrading teachers. I am just educating parents.

Lastly, I am not discouraging from gift giving on other events like parent teacher conferences, end of the year, etc etc.

Oh and I don’t care which ghost member likes or dislikes my post. I am just giving my reasoning why we should think of our teachers during holiday season. It will not effect our faith as far as we understand what we believe in.

Agree with most of above, but what I said is the gifts are not given out of pity. Gifts are given out of love and respect.

If anyone has the need to help teachers, other ocassions can be chosen, and you do agree with that.

[diwana]

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@Muzna

Agreed.
But this is universal and not related only to Muslims that try to mimic.
kawwa chalay haans ki chaal waali misaal applies…

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^Are you suggesting that non-Muslims are more respected around the world because they do not try to mimic Muslims?**

Not the only reason but one of the many reasons.

[Muzna]

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@diwana

Not the only reason but one of the many reasons.

I don’t agree.

[diwana]

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@Muzna

Agreed.
But this is universal and not related only to Muslims that try to mimic.
kawwa chalay haans ki chaal waali misaal applies…

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@Muzna

I don’t agree.

Despite the fact you agreed mimicking (copying) others is like Kawwa Chalaa Hans Ki Chaal?

I see contradiction here, I must say.

[Muzna]

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@diwana

Despite the fact you agreed mimicking (copying) others is like Kawwa Chalaa Hans Ki Chaal?

I see contradiction here, I must say.

No. None whatsoever.
I disagreed on the statement that non-Muslims are respected because they don’t try to mimic.
My belief is that there are other reasons why they are respected, if they are.

[diwana]

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@Muzna

No. None whatsoever.
I disagreed on the statement that non-Muslims are respected because they don’t try to mimic.
My belief is that there are other reasons why they are respected, if they are.

Those who do not copy others mindlessly are respectful, and those who copy others without thinking or finding lame excuses despite breaking very essential and basic differences as they claim, are not.