Each person begins a relationship with his/her hopes, expectations, and ideals. Unfortunately, some of these are unrealistic, unfair, and even self-defeating. They may also doom the relationship to be unsatisfying and to eventually fail.
What should be the level of expectations in our relationships?
Should w nt keep any expectations?is it a realistic approach?
Why we have expectations?
Do u think less expectations leads 2 fewer disoppointmnts?
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I do not believe in EXPECTATIONS any more :)
except ofcourse, only if my wife will be 'expecting' I will accept that whole-heartedly.
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why do we have expectations...i say why not ..its always good to be able look forward to something
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The selfish world we live in, demands us not to expect anything. It hurts less in the end :-)
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Entering into a relationship with blinkers on is not going to produce any good outcome. Any relationship you enter in is based on expectations. Even if you want to enter in friendly relationship, you want to be sure that your friend will be a true friend to you. Your friend will support you and stand by you in times of need and will not betray your trust
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I think one must believe in him/herself before believing in others...
EXPECTATIONS are really the weaknesses of a relationship. Relationship is based on caring and not asking for favours.
If you are good, everything is good, and bad otherwise.
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first of all ... Y ? one should get involved in this relation kindda stuff ... like soul mates , fake broz & sis and blah blah ...
if u can't stop urself 4m such relations .. then u should keep in mind .... about 10% that this may lead 2 dead end ... but 90% of hope is enough 2 run relation smoovely ...
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I personally believe that it is hope that keeps us all going. We get hurt, we fall, we cry. Y and how do we move on? Bcos we r hoping that something better is just around the corner waiting for us.
I don't like the idea of expectations in a relationship. Of course, u need some...like u expect ur partner to be faithful etc...but other than things like that, i think they can cause problems. If they r realistic, fine...sometimes though, ppl expect too much of us...that's when disappointments happen.
I think if u go into a relationship with a clean slate, no baggage, no expectations and no pressure...then it will go more smoothly.
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how can you be wrong kashmiri........whats your name girl?
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Dont expect anything from anyone... period! This is the lesson i have learned. If u expect more from someone, if he/she doesnt come up to ur expectations, then it hurts more. Maybe because everyone has their own ways to react in any kind of situations.
Keep ur hopes high and expectations low.
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There are some relationships in which you cannot help but harboring some expectations. Doenst matter how hard you try not to keep em but they are bound to creep in. So either you can turn a blind eye and claim 'no, I dont have any expectation' or you can accept the reality.
The best thing one can do is to keep your expectations at minimal level. That helps.
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I think thats what I need to lower 
cuz it HURTS
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Well, best thing is not to have any expectations but as Saby said that it is not always possible so when you have any expectations and those become important to you. If those are not met, there's bound to be restlessness.
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One should have realistic expectations! Stuff that happens in movies is wonderful and even makes our hearts melt but as sad as it sounds, it’s just happens on screen and not in real life
All a person can do is be good and hope for the same treatment! Love is something that develops slowly and then grows as time passes… to be fair and honest and ofcourse faithful are the main ingredients that can secure a long lasting relationship!
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This says it all…
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i fully agree with you:clap:
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I wonder how to hope without expectations??
how is that possible?
I have no hopes as i have no expectations
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^ Let me give you an example which might clear the difference in your mind. Lets say someone gives an exam and about to fail. Now one question has a 50-50 case and if teacher gives him marks on that, student will clear the course. Although teacher is very hard and unforgiving while checking exams, student does NOT expect him to be linient and all but he can HOPE that teacher does that.
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to me getting a good mark is not a hope, it is the product of labor and talent…it is not a hope it is a part of destiny…
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^ miss you are missing my point in that example. Point was to differentiate between hope and expectation.