Re: Hitting wife
I dont understand the purpose of discussion DR if you dont really care about her or her feelings.
However, here is what I think:
Abuse doesnt come in the form of physical beating only. It comes in all forms...if he continues to hit her - ESPECIALLY in front of other people - she will suffer. Her self-esteem suffers, her self-image suffers and eventually she will start to resent the man who promised to cherish and protect her.
Why not step in and help her out? I dont understand your hesitation. Maybe her husband needs some common sense knocked into him? That hitting his wife wont make his wife love him, it will make her hate him.
Would any man like it if his wife smacked him upside the head in front of his friends because he isnt making enough to pay the bills on time? Oh how about when guests come over? "Sorry guys, my husband doesnt make enough to feed you all biryani and kabab, daal and chawal will have to do! Do come by again, maybe with next month's bonus, we can even have sugar in our chai!"
Frankly, Im sad for your cousin's wife. I bet she feels extremely betrayed by her husband right now and alone. Now that she is reaching out for help from family, they're thinking twice about helping her.
Must you make me so proud?