i am at lowest point in my life now…i have lost all the will and motivation to live for…im living this life passivly..i have lost my confidence and self esteem and i feel awkward in social situations..n thats really emabarassing..i wasnt like this..i was cherfull and i had passions..but i lost it all…now im trying to start it all over again…has anyone been thru it before..
any suggestions..
Think about it...if you've hit rock bottom...the only way is up, right?
Chin up and crawl your way out of your pit. You can do it...you actually dont need anyones help. All help and advice is meaningless until you have made up your own mind to help yourself first.
Best Wishes...
Re: hitting the bottom...
yes....been there before.
only way out is by looking at those that are in a worse situation that yourself.
consider those that have no food, no shelter and sometimes nobody in the world.
consider the children that grow up without parents in the deserted, rural areas of Africa.
can you afford to be ungrateful?
Re: hitting the bottom...
oh have some paxil!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Re: hitting the bottom…
misleading title 
i am at lowest point in my life now...i have lost all the will and motivation to live for...im living this life passivly..i have lost my confidence and self esteem and i feel awkward in social situations..n thats really emabarassing..i wasnt like this..i was cherfull and i had passions..but i lost it all...now im trying to start it all over again...has anyone been thru it before.. any suggestions..
Majority of people go through up and downs. The end result of "staying" at the "lowest" point - depends on YOU.
If you feel sad about something, then CHANGE your perspective. Ignore that aspect. Move on from that "sadness" by moving toward " positive" things.
You will feel no interest in anything and it will be difficult to get your acts together to move on if you ONLY keep thinking about the incidents that lead to sadness.
One of the BEST ways to get yourself together is to start by volunteering for assistance. Be selective of who and where you want to volunteer at. It could be hospital, library, schools, Masjid, etc.
By spending your time volunteering you will get 2 benefits out of it.
1) You will feel good of being CAPABLE of assisting and making changes in SOMEONE'S life.
2) In return, you will also FIND yourself in what you want to do next.
So let's get you going.
Tell us what are you doing - starting TODAY? :)
I know man.
I came in to say you should not hit bottom with hand It may
cause unpleasant event in married life.
Re: hitting the bottom...
yeah uzziel knows
LA , glad to hear that you are trying to start it all over again. I personally believe that If you have lived a good, aspiring , active life before , you will live it again … what derails us sometimes , are our own choices that we make in situations. Therefore everytime you lose yourself just sit down and think hard , what decision/action started derailing you … change that particular action/thought process and move on. If you cant change it , learn from the mistake and carry on with zeal and faith in your self and your ability to live a good life.
We , humans werent made to live passively. Therefore have faith in yourself and bring yourself out of this shell … time to return to your real self 
yes....been there before. only way out is by looking at those that are in a worse situation that yourself. consider those that have no food, no shelter and sometimes nobody in the world. consider the children that grow up without parents in the deserted, rural areas of Africa.
can you afford to be ungrateful?
Well said.
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what happened tht took all ur will away?i hope it gets better cuz i knw how it feels..im back to the person who used to be happy n cheerful now Mashallah but i went thru ur stage it took a lot of friends n willpower to stand where im today!
i telle everyone this...u get ONE shot in live dunt screw it!
yeah uzziel knows
Thanx to his thread..we all know!
Re: hitting the bottom...
I've been there before Lost Angel. Totally. Just barely got out of the lowest ebb of my life but seriously what helped me is my family, starting to read the Quran (PROPERLY, not just skimming but translating and reading) and realising that everything is not in our control. Sometimes we just have to let go.
I shed alot of tears and spent days just in my room with curtains drawn. Didn't eat, didn't talk to people and just shouted at family members. I had so much anger in me (which still surfaces now and then) but then eventually, with time, things started to heal itself. I started doing different things. Started some courses at my local College, got a job, started meeting people who had similar experiences and realised that I am not the only one in the world going through this.
I hope my suggestions help and whatever problems you have are lessened. Ameen. Belief and faith in Allah are paramount to any problems. InshAllah, you will get through whatever is pushing you down. Just keep pushing back.
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yes i have started to work things out...im trying to identify wat is taking me down and learn to deal with it...im doing regular exercise and looking after myself more(havent done this for last one year now...)..im sorting out my prefrences and things that make me feel good...
but the most imp thing i want to concentrate on is my prayers...im trying to get regular with my prayers..i know its going to take time...im trying to stay consistent..n every now and then when i loose all the will to move on..posting here on GS brings me back to reality and reminds me to MOVE ON...
i am at lowest point in my life now...i have lost all the will and motivation to live for...im living this life passivly..i have lost my confidence and self esteem and i feel awkward in social situations..n thats really emabarassing..i wasnt like this..i was cherfull and i had passions..but i lost it all...now im trying to start it all over again...has anyone been thru it before.. any suggestions..
Ahh Lost Angel, Using these words you have described exactly how I felt a year ago from today. It was awful because I even lost the will to read Namaaz. I stopped reading and didn’t even feel guilty about it. But at some point in my life previously I had obviously done some good in my life for Allah to show mercy on me one day. I managed to let my parents agree to send me back to my birth country to sort myself out. I did that and managed to find myself a job and do things that I thought not possible for myself. But my problem is that Im not out of danger yet. Although I have managed to get myself together and get my confidence back, now I gotta go back and try and handle the same thing again but better than I did the last time. Im really scared and don’t want to, but don’t have any choice. What can confidence do in the face of family pressure and a dying fathers request to go back to the same even though he knows all that I went through. I am confident and happy but only at work, when I come home, the insecurity and the sadness returns.
But to you I just wanna say, welldone for taking the first small steps to recovery. I totally understand how you feel and know just how difficult it is. Keep faith in Allah and read loads of Darood Shareef.
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If you are trying to become regular in your prayers then try to go to the mosque as often as possible.
Like exercising it is much easier to fall into a routine and be motivated to carry on when there are like-minded individuals around you doing the same thing.
I love praying at the mosque.....even if I don't know anyone there. I find it extremely peaceful and always come back feeling energized and full of hope.