okay, so I don’t usually open such threads because I like to keep my private life what it is…private.
But recently me and my partner have hit a rough patch, we constantly bicker and fight over petty little things. My partner seemed to be the one ‘in charge’ in our relationship but over time I feel the need to speak up too. And I guess now we’re always arguing. Heck we argue about whether I’m allowed to be online, or whether I’m allowed to wear my hair a certain way…even if I’m allowed to cut it!
I just want to be able to speak up as well, I want to have equality…is that so bad to want?
So all you married people, what would you suggest us to do? Please help me, it’s really important we get through this, it tears me up even thinking about it sniff
P.S - serious replies only please, it may look like a silly topic to some of you but I can depend on others to give me thorough and sincere advice such as redvelvet because she truly does make sense and is always ready to help out!
Just talk to your partner and make him understand that you have your personal choices.Hope your partner gets some sense that it's not advisable to get too much involved in his partner's freedom of choices.If he is still not understanding the issue,just bold your tone and he will understand it.
I think we all can live in a transparent world. :)
oh this is a common phase...It's called GROWING UP. This rough patch can happen with anyone be it your friend, significant other and/or parents.
My suggestion... keep voicing your opinion! why? because you are entitled to do so. Put your foot down with matters that count (matters which you feel strong about)...the big issues! and allow your "partner" to get away with the smaller more irrelevant issues...matters in which you can compromise or matters in which you really dont care about either way.
seems like you dont give enough time to your partner.
well in relationships time is the most important thing. if you cant take out time for em or give em precedence over thing then its better leave em.
pick ur battles wisely. don't argue on every single thing. i'll say assess ur priorities like wat's more imp a happy married life or a hair cut, *peace in house or coming on*line. sort things u can ignore n those u can't. if an argument seems to arise take a break. leaving each other alone for a while n then discussing the issue later gives both cooling time n results in better results..
aik chup hazaar arguements ko roke sakti hai. same meethi zuban 100 kaam kerva sakti hai
