should or should not make you feel dispensable?
should couples from different professions, end up as happy couples?
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should couples from different professions, end up as happy couples?
why shouldn't they? what's the problem in it?
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sorry, that i bring in my example,
one of the main reasons he wanted to marry me, or seemed to have presented as a reason for looking for a spouse from another professional field, was that he was not satisfied with his own profession and did not want his potential spouse to be suffering in that profession's struggles.
and of course, last minute, he changed his mind, for reasons best known to him.
any thoughts, why?
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There can be a thousand reasons as to why he changed his mind. Does not mean there is anything remotely wrong with you, your profession or anything else for that matter. If he walked out last minute, i say its the best for you so you didnt get stuck with him. I have been in this situation and so i can say its tough to go through it but InshaAllah its good for you in the long run.
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sorry, that i bring in my example,
one of the main reasons he wanted to marry me, or seemed to have presented as a reason for looking for a spouse from another professional field, was that he was not satisfied with his own profession and did not want his potential spouse to be suffering in that profession's struggles. and of course, last minute, he changed his mind, for reasons best known to him. any thoughts, why?
ONLY *he can best explain that, so it would be better if he is asked this question, instead of people on this forum who don't absolutely have *"ANY" clue or** "ANY"** idea of his personality, habbits, nature, likeness, dislikeness, passion, abilities, mood, sense of humor, patience, moral values, manners, aim in life, good qualities, bad qualities, his attitude, his looks, which type of girls he likes, which type of girls he hates, his beliefs, his way of thinking, his mental status, interest in poetry, interest in threads that are made for HIM!,....................................etc.
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thanks, submission to peace... for your bluntness.
you necessarily do not have to feel sympathetic towards anyone, especially me.
i would be able to live without your interjection.
apathy is mens' NATURE. I AM NOT SURPRISED.
kind regards,
dushwari
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Ok, I won't say anything in any of your threads now.
And kindly forgive me if my words hurt you, but my respond would have been exactly the same if (God forbid) my own sister were in the same situation and if she had asked the same question. And I wouldn't mind if anyone responds to me in the same manner anytime in life.
Anyways, I am out of your threads from now on.
May Allah bless you and your family with all the blessings of this life and hereafter.
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pleasure is all yours.
same to you.
Ok, I won't say anything in any of your threads now.
And kindly forgive me if my words hurt you, but my respond would have been exactly the same if (God forbid) my own sister were in the same situation and if she had asked the same question. And I wouldn't mind if anyone responds to me in the same manner anytime in life.
Anyways, I am out of your threads from now on.
May Allah bless you and your family with all the blessings of this life and hereafter.
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Nope, I didn't feel pleasure in saying anything above.
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what being in same profession has to do with being a happy couple!
Happiness comes when there is an understanding/respect for each other, when they are willing to sacrifice, when they SHARE their joys and sorrows, when they see things from same perspective.
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Dushwari-- always remember that no matter how heartbroken you may be, the world doesn't stop for your grief. Time heals the greatest of wounds. Cliche? Maybe.... but absolutely true... theres a valuable lesson to be learned from each situation you face in life, though it may not seem that way at the time... have patience... dont kill urself over this, its not worth it... pm me ill give u my # if u need someone to talk to :)
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its the people that matter, not their professons...
he said that all the time...
& when it came to his choice, he found himself without it.
sacrifice, is almost becoming an obsolete, in my dictionary of relationship words. credit goes to him.
yeah, accepting and growing with the good and the bad were his words too.
too bad, i had ears to listen to all that and then believe in it, too.
too, too, bad for me.
time will heal...
lessons are to be learnt...
it sounds like so much insult to injury, but right now, i have to take it.
what being in same profession has to do with being a happy couple. Happiness comes when there is an understanding/respect for each other, when they are willing to sacrifice, when they SHARE their joys and sorrows, when they see things from same perspective.
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No, not really cuz in most cases in our culture the guys are more educated and the girls are not mature enough and up to their standard. There like paindoo's who dont know anything besides cooking, eating and ****ting.
should or should not make you feel dispensable?
should couples from different professions, end up as happy couples?
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cuz diferent professions have different ideas. They might not get alone. whereas people from the same professions may get along alot more because they have similiar experiences and ideas to related to.
its the people that matter, not their professons... he said that all the time... & when it came to his choice, he found himself without it. sacrifice, is almost becoming an obsolete, in my dictionary of relationship words. credit goes to him. yeah, accepting and growing with the good and the bad were his words too. too bad, i had ears to listen to all that and then believe in it, too. too, too, bad for me. time will heal... lessons are to be learnt... it sounds like so much insult to injury, but right now, i have to take it.
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Sbriyah,
i do not expect the world to stop.
time is frozen for me, anyway.
only he can undo what he did or this pain will never ever go away.
thanks. i am killed already - twice - once when i met him, second - when he left without no reconciliation.
dushwari
Dushwari-- always remember that no matter how heartbroken you may be, the world doesn't stop for your grief. Time heals the greatest of wounds. Cliche? Maybe.... but absolutely true... theres a valuable lesson to be learned from each situation you face in life, though it may not seem that way at the time... have patience... dont kill urself over this, its not worth it... pm me ill give u my # if u need someone to talk to :)
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Sbriyah, i do not expect the world to stop. time is frozen for me, anyway. only he can undo what he did or this pain will never ever go away. thanks. i am killed already - twice - once when i met him, second - when he left without no reconciliation. dushwari
What a horrible post :( . I know nothing in this thread will make you feel better. All I know is, time does heal all wounds. But that will only happen if you allow yourself to move ahead.