His parents say no to our love marrige,what should I do?

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It’s very upset that his parents don’t agree with us,they wanna him marry his cousin ( that girl is his father’s sister’s daughter),i am a good person,and nice,i have a job,and work hard
his parents are so mean,just say no,we love each other so much,he doesn’t wanna make his parents unhappy,also he doesn’t wanna give up our relationship,so hard,i can’t eat and sleep,in the past week,i used tears wash my face,every day,every hour,every minute,every second,i just feel i am in a jail,sometimes,i even wanna end my life.i wonder why his parents are so mean.they care about themselves,don’t care about their son’s happiness.
is there any way can secure me?why Allah can’t help me?who can survive me?

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Re: His parents say no to our love marrige,what should I do?

If he has tried reasoning with them and showing them what a good person you are, and he is not willing/able to go against his parents, there's not much you can do. Best to move on while you can.

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there is a problem,I am not in Pakistan,I am not a Pakistani

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I wonder if the guy knew (earlier) that his parents were interested in his cousin. Often times parents will give hints. If so, he should have made it clear to his parents that he won't marry his cousin. I know it's easier said than done...but why start something (an affair with a non-desi girl) if you know that you're not going to have the courage to stand up to your parents. What was he looking for? Someone to pass his time with?

You never know.....he might even just be telling you that his parents won't accept it.....and the whole time he might not have made any real effort at convincing them. If he can't and won't fight for you......then he's just not that into you.....have some respect for yourself and move on.

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Then DEFINITELY move on.

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Where are u from?

Like RV said if he really loves you he'd prob fight for you (or at the very least stall for time and avoid marrying his cousin for as long as possible)..

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I think most of us have an idea from the get-go as to what would make our parents "unhappy". So, he KNEW from the beginning that his parents won't be accepting of you....but it doesn't seem like he wants this as badly as you do. I know examples of desi guys who have married non-desi women. The whole situation reminds me of "Catwomen's" story....the guy wouldn't marry her but also couldn't see her with anyone else. Easier said than done, but I hope that you'll be wiser and will move on with your life. If this guy truly wants to marry you....he knows what he needs to do....he knows how to reach you. You want a marriage....and you shouldn't settle for anything less than that. Move on.

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he knows that his parents wanna him marry her,and they asked his thoughts,and he said yes to them,he didn't tell me this when we start our love,now he told me,but i have been involved too much,i asked him why he didn't tell me about this,he told me his parents don't wanna him marry his ex(his anther cousin),ask him choose one,asked him again and again,he was bored by his mother,then said yes,and i asked him why not tell him when he started to love me,he said he thought there would be no problem with his parents.
I am not a Pakistani,and i also don't know much about cousin can marry cousin,and i also don't know much about arranged marriage.

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He's lying to you and to his parents. Is this the kind of guy you want to marry?

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i would love to move on, but you don't know,we are very closed.
and what's more,how can he just done this to me,leave me in miserable ,and then walk away.

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Exactly. Imagine how much worse it will be if he does marry you and he is doing everything according to his parents wishes and against your own, or lying to you and them, and carrying on with someone else.

And what about that poor cousin of his who is probably unaware of it all?

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he wrote a letter to his cousin,he said he wants her to say no to his parents,i don't know if this works or not,but i don't think so,she is a girl,and ,Pakistani girls,they are obedient.

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^ He can't say no to his parents and he expects her to?

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he wrote a letter to his cousin,he showed me,but i don't know Urdu,so,i don't know what he said to her.
sometimes,i hate him so much,how much i loved him,how much hurt i get.

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yeah,that's right. he said no to his parents,but his mother use tears to convince him

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Re: His parents say no to our love marrige,what should I do?

yeah,that's right. he said no to his parents,but his mother use tears to convince him

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:hinna:

:rolleyes:

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So she did convince him, so there's not much you can do. If he wants to follow what his parents say, what point is there in fighting it?

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Not another troll with bad English. :smack:

It’s a cycle. Every few months a ‘non-Pakistani’ comes with similar story. :slight_smile:

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i wanna him pay for what he did.
what goes around comes around.