ZZ:
** How much choice did Ayesha have in marriage **
Good question.Yes she was asked by her father if she has any objection and doesn't want to marry Muhammad(s.a.w).It is Islamic law to ask the girl wether she wants to marry the person or not.If you know something, Islamic marriege, nikah is performed in such a way,where groom and the bride,both are asked and they have complete right to reject or accept the marriege purposal.There is no doubt that Ayesha (raze-ala-tala-anha) agreed on marrying Muhammad(s.a.w)
** why marrying several men by woman is vulgur while marrying several women by men are signs of prophethood. **
First of all, i would like to clear this misunderstanding that marrying more than one woman is not a sign of prophethood, infact it doesn't have to do anything with prophethood. Polygamy is not started by Islam, before Muhammad(s.a.w) men married more than 4 women,but Islam restricted and allowed only 4 wives and with some conditions set.
** masooma, why 7 brothers marrying one woman is vulgur while one man marrying 9 women as ur prophet did is not vulgur **
I believe in equality between men and women, but ISLAMIC SOCIETY IS "A DUAL SEX
RATHER THAN UNISEX SOCIETY". While maintaining the validity of the equal worth of men and women, the Quran does not judge this equality to mean equivalence or identity of the sexes.
Probably you are familiar with the contemporary move toward unisex clothes and shoes, unisex jewellery and hair styles, unisex actions and entertainments. In fact, it is often difficult in America(and who can forget indi.a) to decide whether one is looking at a boy or a girl. Although WESTERN COUNTRIES and Indi.a highly influenced by western culture, meant to bring a larger measure of equality for women, the idea that men and women are not only equal, but equivalent and identical, has actually pushed women into imitating men and even despising their womanhood. Thus it is generating a new type of male chauvinism. Tremendous social pressures have resulted in stripping women of their role-responsibilities formerly performed by them, and they are forced to live a life devoid of personality and individuality.
The society based on the QURAN is, in contrast, a dual-sex society in which both sexes are assigned their special responsibilities. This assures the healthy functioning of the society for the benefit of all its members,men and women are equal but NOT identicle, a guy marrying 4 women will know that each kid from all wives are his, but a women marrying more than one guy, GOSH! its sick and she will have a lot of propblem telling her husbands whose child is it, well if you find such equality honorable in your relegion, what can i say, we are muslims and find that very unpure and vulgar.
*Poor girl. Became widow in youth, by marrying an old man. did she get a kid from prophet. i dont think so. how sad. such a bad marital life just because a old man lusted for u when u were 9 yrs *
-Rational answered this post of yours ZZ, and you don't have to feel sorry for Hazrat Ayesha raze-ala-tala-anha because she was very happy when got married to Hazrat Muhammad (s.a.w)
Astrosfan:
** , she wished to take her statement back, but Arjuna decided that his mother's words should not be said in vain. And so, out of respect for his mother, Draupadi married the 5 brothers, and was shared equally. This setup also ended happily for Draupadi, and was of course, after she was of decent age **
No sir, this is no excuse for performing such a vulgar act.Dhropati was a woman and she was won?and so was shared by 5 brothers?oh come on, you find it sophisticated??was she given freedom of speach and to decide wether she wants to marry 5 brothers?well yea, after she was married to 5 brothers, she was happy but what about before she got married?and how come the society allowed such an act to be performed?
** Hinduism and Islam both recommend monogamous marriage, and both have histories and polygamy. **
True, Islam has a history and polygamy being performed but not polyandry!!polygamy is also allowed under some circumstances and with some conditions.It is made very hard to be performed, the man has to deal all four wives equaly in all aspects of life which is impossible for an ordinary human being, only a super man can be powerful enough to treat four wives equaly, but yes, one thing i should mention, Islam ALLOWES polygamy but it Prefers MONOGAMMY!
Masooma