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if she can afford it then why not? its her big day
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so i wear hijab because i don’t want to show my hair to na mehram. i also wear full sleeves and full pants. what does any of it have anything to do with spending money???
if i can afford i would want to have world’s most extravagant wedding.
one thing i have nottice among people i know that for some reason they feel guilty about not wearing hijab, so they always point out my mistake and comparing it with me wearing hijab or praying namaz when i do or say something that is not totally islamic. for example the other day i missed class so i was trying to come up with excuses to tell my teacher why i skipped class. actually i crashed my car a day before skipping class so i was a bit upset about it but i could tell that to my teacher so i wanted to say that my car wasn’t working properly or something. so the moment i told my friend that i am sorta gonna twist around the truth to make an excuse for missing the class the first thing she said was “tum hijab pehanti ho, namaz parhti ho, or aisay jhoot bolo gi” umm…hello. just because i try to fulfill the farz doesn’t mean i am automatically the most perfect person in the world. but i just hate it when people does it, they feel guilty about not doing what you are doing so they always try to step on you by bringing you namaz or hijab in the way.
PEOPLE! she's linking hijaab with modesty. In this case she's saying how can spending so much money on an extravagant wedding and going all out for your honey moon be viewed as being modest when you wear a hijaab. PCG i see your point but i dont really know how to answer this for you.
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i get ur point Pcg but alot of other ppl dont seem to.
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why is she linking only modesty with hijab when hijab is fard for all muslim women - modest or not?
stop your gheebat about the sister before hellfire singes your tails 
I ran into this old friend of mine, who recently had a wedding. So my sister and I were discussing the conflict between being a religious hijaabi and throwing an all-star expensive extravagant wedding.
Girlfriend had an all-out 7 day extravaganza, really expensive dress, awesome food selection (makes a chinese buffet look cheap), ridiculously expensive resort area, and gave herself a ridiculously expensive honeymoon to boot with pictures and videos all over facebook.
So, hijabs are done for modesty. How can you be a modest person wearing a hijab and have the most extravagant wedding ever...when you come from a country where people die of hunger every night and get treated like dogs for being poor?
What are your thoughts?
Real Good Topic.
For the girl, the scarf may be means of pardah only and nt necessairly a tool for modesty.
Nobody is perfect. Maybe taking up the scarf was to the limit she could do for religion or even family.
But the most important thing ;
Unfortunately 90% of people, think they r following religion. but don't understand the true meaning or purpose of what is expected of them.
I'm glad this came up, because it really needs to be addressed.
Firstly, you can NEVER judge a person's character by how they dress. There are tons of girls out there who call themselves "hijabi" and at the same time they wear short or see-through sleeves with their scarf, they date, they go clubbing, they swear and drink and steal and all kinds of stuff. Next, you have non-hijabi girls who wear modest fitting clothes, full sleeves, don't date, drink, etc. So really, what makes hijabis and nonhijabis so different? nothing. It maybe sad or startling for some to accept, but it's true. Today it takes a lot more then a girl's appearance to tell just how pious she is.
About hijab, there is a serious discrepency you need to clarify when you call someone a hijabi. There is the hijabi who wears a scarf on her head, and there's the hijabi who practices HIJAB, being modest in the way you dress, act, and live your daily life. They're two very different things. Having said that, I think you guys can understand that not all girls who wear the hijab can claim their title as one who really practices HIJAB-- and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, in my opinion. No one can do a 360 like that overnight. It's a process for most, to reach that point where they are truly practicing "hijab" as per the Qur'an and Sunnah.
At least that's how it was for me. When I decided I wanted to be that person, I started with the smallest step. and that, for me, was covering up. For others, that step could have beeen changing a behavior or a habit: not talking to boys, praying all your namaz, etc. It is always a process! I wear a scarf on my head, but I am STILL nowhere near the role prescribed for me by my religion. So when you see a girl wearing hijab on her head, you can't assume that girl is the most perfect muslim in the world, and if you a girl without a scarf on her head, that doesn't mean she doesn't pray, or that she drinks and parties and talks to boys. For the same reasons, that hijabi is not necessarily going to throw a small simple wedding out of modesty, and that non hijabi is not necessarily going to throw the craziest wedding in town. You just can't judge that way anymore.
I hope I didn't demean anyone with my tone, because that wasn't my intention at all. I just thought this needed to be clarified.
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hijab or no hijab......is it any of our business what a person decides to do with their money?
if you have higher moral standards about how you spend your money then good for you.
be an example......live like one.
I certainly would not be able to throw money away......but that is me. Perhaps you and I are similar in that sense........perhaps hundreds of atheists and agnostics think like we do too.
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So now hijabi girls can’t have an extravagant honeymoon, BECAUSE ITS NOT MODEST?? 
If she's paid her zakat and the families aren't going into debt or taking loans left right and centre to pay for the 'extravagant' wedding I don't really think it's a big deal and besides that word is so subjective, 20k might be considered extravagant by some ppl (I once read on an Islamic forum a lot of ppl thinking just 3k was excessive and some even saying 'why does she even need a new dress' lol) but completely reasonable or good value by others..
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i do not understand, why do we consider wearing a hijab synoymous to depriving oneself of all other forms of entertainments or extravagance a 'non hijabi' could easily enjoy without having fingers wagged at her.
anyone who does observe pardah and wears hijab should be truly appreciated, for even this in today's world is a jehad bil nafs and does require alot of will power.
i had similar conflict of opinion with my pathology teacher, who herself wore nothing less than the most fitted and revealing clothes (no 'chugali' meant, just a realistic description). Clothing obviously is a personal matter of preference and we have no right to judge the intentions or level of naiki by that.
A friend of mine who wears hijab, was caught talking to another girl during a test. And the same teacher made a big issue out of it, and offended alot of girls by her comment
'jo ye dupattay and hijab le ker bibiyan bunti ho, to cheating kerni ho to utaar k kiya kero ye sab'
i found that quite rude..what do you guys think of this attitude?
as for PCG's thread, i agree Islam is a religion of modesty and lavish and extravagant weddings have no place in islam, but if the girl could afford it, I guess the rest lies b/w Allah and her. the same way it is b/w us (who do not yet have the courage to wear hijab) and Allah over this :)
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and by hijab i meant the physical hijab of wearing a full headscarf and a complete abaya. the practising of hijab, i have been trying that since ages. I really hope to attain that level of faith to start the physical one too soon, InshAllah !
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iam a hijabi..and inshAllah plan to have an xtravagant wedding....coz i CAN afford it...inshAllahhh...... lol.. :D
so dere :P hehehehe
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i think you just made pcg very angry, marvi. =(
^ ppl would be angry even if she had said she was going to keep it simple.
When a woman tries to wear an all simple white burqa... she looks like a member of KKK. When she wears all black, its a black tent. When she wears a decorated one, she's not modest. When she doesn't wear it at all.. now that's what we wanna see!! ;)
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im a hijabi and i can afford to have an extravagant wedding..but since marriage is a sunnah act..it should be performed like it too.ie..simple and one which causes least problems to arrange it, to gain more blessings of Allah...however..it's too easy to give into the temptation of having a high expense wedding!
id personally want a wedding arranged in such a way that if the prophet SAW were to be alive ,he'd attend it happily :)
it would just depend upon the state of of my imaan..pressure of my family and in laws..at that point in time..:)
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Maybe she does her part for the poor as well as throw herself wild wedding(s).
Only she doesnt boost the helping poor aspect.
i think you just made pcg very angry, marvi. =(
o im soorie :P i dint mean too :P
hehe