Re: Hijabi girls/women..
Errrr....
First of all I've been wearing Hijaab for 3 years now, started wearing Abaya last year and Niqab this year.
I got plenty of non-Hijaabi friends and I've never been harsh on any of them, ALL OF THEM consider Hijaab to be farz and have the desire to wear it someday insha'Allah. What I dislike is when a person is wearing completely tight clothes and then puts on a headscarf calling it Hijaab, some of those girls might be forced to wear it but if you feel like wearing it wear it in a decent way. I perfectly understand if someone doesn't want to wear an abaya especially here in the west but I feel there is no need to put on a headscarf if your outfit consists of tighs and a mini-skirt/shirt. That's just plain ridiculous, as hijaab should be modest and YES this does include the Hijaab of speech! If a Hijaabi is using swear words all time starts getting unfriendly and screams or does even worse thing then that gives people a really bad impression on Hijaabis(which some of you guys already seem to have unfortunately...) I don't lecture any girl to put it on, I can give a fair explanation, however I won't pressure anyone to do it, if you're not doing it for the sake of Allah SWT you're doing it for the wrong reasons, Allah SWT will not accept something if it doesn't come from the bottom of your heart.
Now look at it from that point of view: How often are Hijaabis picked on? Called extremists or backward by Muslims themselves. So you end up being hurt and start wondering what is wrong with those people? Why do they take Islam always for granted? Haven't they had any religious schooling? Most people don't even know what Islam is really about, they don't question or inquire they just take in the information that was given to them by their surroundings instead of doing their own research. If you tell them what they should do(and that is not your opinion but the Islamic view) they will start getting moody and won't listen to you. As a Hijaabi you might have to justify yourself always, you have to stand your grand always no matter where...so someday you might start to feel people are mad at you and rude towards you for your headscarf and no other reason, they dislike what you're doing not for the lack of talent but because of your clothing. That is the moment some may become bitter and therefore end up picking on girls who are not wearing it simply for they might not have to suffer the same kind of injustice. If you're wearing Hijaab everyone will see you're a Muslim by faith, of course nobody can tell the strength of your Imaan, however the visible sign is enough for some to mock you always. I've been called some really disgusting things on the street "Ninja" was the least of them.
For me this Hijaab means so much I had to fight a lot to wear it, my father begged me to take it off, I wouldn't, then he begged me to only take the dupatta and a half long coat. I refused as I don't consider a dupatta which shows half of my hair to be the Islamic Hijaab. He is totally desperate and upset but I won't give in, I'm a Muslim and the rules of Allah SWT come first.