Re: hijab vs marriage
What about girls that are rejected because they're not hijaabis? Are those families that are looking for just hijaabi girls also oppressive?
It all boils down to personal bias, doesn't it? People who wear hijab and get a rejection think that hijabis are on the rejection list. People who don't wear hijab and get rejected think that hijabis are prizes that guys are going after.
Fact is that people will have preferences. A guy may be uncomfortable either way if the girl wears hijab or not. Probably best to get married to someone who is comfortable with the choices you make.