How would you look at someone who once wore hijab and later took it off for whatever reasons. Will you judge them right away? Look at them/treat them differently? Question their beliefs or previous way of life?. What will be your initial reaction?.
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Personally I'd assume they just didn't feel ready to wear it full-time..
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It's not my place to judge anyone, especially since I don't wear it myself.
I've had friends who have gone from not wearing to wearing - and vice versa.
Each had their own personal reasons and I never questioned them.
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No, I would not
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My initial reaction would be that of surprise. No, I won't treat them differently...especially not with contempt. I've recently come across two family members whom I've seen wear hijab with short sleeves and see-through sleeves. I thought it was funny as it's an odd combination, but I didn't say anything to them or treat them differently. In the case of one of them, I'm aware that they only started recently and it takes time to fully accommodate a change in lifestyle even if it's your dress-sense.
Hmm, would I have any negative feelings? Maybe if the person who took off the hijab was one who would impose views on others...then I might feel a twinge of unwholesomeness in my heart.
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I would conclude that the sister in question had taken on too much for her maqam, which led to her leaving it. Better to be slow and adopting of what is easy with a view to gradually improve ... istiqama (constancy) is more important than ihsan (excellence), as the former can happen without the latter, but the latter cannot happen without the former.
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I would conclude that the sister in question had taken on too much for her maqam, which led to her leaving it. Better to be slow and adopting of what is easy with a view to gradually improve ... istiqama (constancy) is more important than ihsan (excellence), as the former can happen without the latter, but the latter cannot happen without the former.
What did you mean by "gradually improve"?
Since dress code is discussed, would going from no hijab be an example of gradual improvement. And from hijab to an additional step of covering be an example of consistency?
If one were to go reverse direction, would that be gradual "disimprovement"
Or by gradual improvement, do you mean as a human being. To tall independent of one's attire?
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What did you mean by "gradually improve"?
Since dress code is discussed, would going from no hijab be an example of gradual improvement. And from hijab to an additional step of covering be an example of consistency?
If one were to go reverse direction, would that be gradual "disimprovement"
Or by gradual improvement, do you mean as a human being. To tall independent of one's attire?
Peace Southie
I made the assumption that the causal factor for putting on the hijab was out of a sense of religious adherence and removing it was out of a sense of comfort and ease ... you are right that - there is the possibility of her taking it off due a sense of having an alternative understanding of hijab, but then such a person would still not conclude the hijab is lesser or wrong, but would rather conclude it to be a higher standard that may not be required, but would be praiseworthy for the extra prudence.
Improve here is meant - in line with ones inner endeavours to conform to their own archetypal perfection ... in their mind's eye.
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@Southie.. It's said that changes in lifestyle that are implemented hastily are not as long-lasting. Sometimes when you try to do many things all at once, you can wear yourself out and then lose interest. In the case of diets and exercise (for instance), this is a common occurrence. Hijab is not only about covering your hair, it also entails modesty in the rest of your dressing as well. It will take time, there will be moments of regression, so go slowly and take it little by little as opposed to making all changes at once and exhausting yourself. Such changes are not only physical ones, they involve an emotional courage/energy as well...a battle of will power at times...so you can wear yourself out if you rush to take on too much.
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I wouldn't care because your body, your rules. Sometimes I pray five time a day the second the azan happens and sometimes I'm rushing at the last moment so keeping consistent is tough. I've never even attempted to cover my head so at least she tried and I can respect that.
Even my dad asked me once what I thought about a lady he used to know who was chaddar clad all the time and he helped get her legal documents settled to move countries. She came back denim clad to thank him. He was baffled by the transformation and I had to remind him that wearing a chaddar was cultural thing and not always a religious one. She was wearing whatever was the norm in her new culture when she had been previously wearing something that norm for her old country. It wasn't a change in her as much as a change in environment.
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^ Indeed. The environment is changing. But that is another discussion. Another thread.
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I don't see why it should matter much. What I find sad is that people wear Hijab for cultural/tradition reasons and not really because of their own religious awakening.
It's one thing to wear it because you chose to... another to be expected to wear it because everyone else is.
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How would you look at someone who once wore hijab and later took it off for whatever reasons. Will you judge them right away? Look at them/treat them differently? Question their beliefs or previous way of life?. What will be your initial reaction?.
It is not at all my job, whatsoever, to form an opinion about someone over a decision that personal. If they want to talk about the reason, I am more than happy to be the listening ear.
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I would think its better to get back to basics than put on a costume.
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I find hijab/scarf awkward/unpleasing, there is no obivious reason.
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I find hijab/scarf awkward/unpleasing, there is no obivious reason.
I never tried it on.
I never tried it on.
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You should. Keeping your face covered would be a great service
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If its someone near and dear to me I might ask why? if is not someone near and dear, its non of my business.
Uffoh, it will keep your nice skin prevented from the harsh rays of sun.