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ps Diamond, I dn't know any other way to cover hair without a headscarf.. I can only think of hijaab
There are tons of Western style hats which can do this job very well. Try some of them for a change.
And no it will not draw any unwanted attention and will make you look like part of the mainstream too.
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Have you ever thought of people who do things out of norm and are very proud of it, never feel ashamed of it. For example, having their lip pierced. They still deal with the public and the thought of having their lips pierced doesn't stop them from anything. The reason because they are confident that what they are doing is right. So be confident in wearing a Hijab. As far as if you would get less contracts, then again believe in Allah that whatever you are destined to get, you will get it.
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agree with barqun and Mad Hatter here.
be confident with yourself and your decision. Only then it will be come easy for you.
I frankly don't really fuss with what other people think about me. I do it to please Allah SWT and to me, that's more important to how other people feel about me. I honestly think the hijab made me more confident in how I look and feel.
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Peace Confucius
Wearing the khimar is making a statement of your Muslim identity, especially in this day and age ... The best way to handle the nerves is to involve your work colleagues, and boss. Ask their opinion ... take a non-Muslim peer/colleague out with you to choose your scarf with you ... involving them in your decisions will make them closer to you, not doing this will encourage people whispering about it behind your back ... I trust humanity in general and I feel we all should ... perhaps they will see that you are even more nicer, kinder as a result will before long be like second nature for them.
Contrary to what people suggest clothing/attire is a public statement so we do affect the people around us. I always make a distinction between khimar and hijaab ... And I have been saying this for years on GS, but people still take no notice - Women especially continue to equate the two together ... It is quite possible for a khimari girl to be dressed less modestly than a woman wearing no khimar ... My advice is that - make the move/transition work for you by getting others who are affected on your side ...
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I like your ideas psyah.
This strategy is great when one is transitioning from non hijabi to hijabi at present work place. But a consultant does not have permanent employer they move from one client to other after few weeks , few months , few years.
What should they do when they go for an interview , should they go in hijab or not ?
How do they involve everybody in the process if they have already made a transition and are going to a new client site ? Start the process all over again ?
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I like your ideas psyah. This strategy is great when one is transitioning from non hijabi to hijabi at present work place. But a consultant does not have permanent employer they move from one client to other after few weeks , few months , few years. What should they do when they go for an interview , should they go in hijab or not ? How do they involve everybody in the process if they have already made a transition and are going to a new client site ? Start the process all over again ?
I think it needs to be played by ear very carefully ... Yes, my suggestion was based on a long-term consultancy placement, but with returning work then it is good to have a quick word with the line manager and inform them of the latest developments. Speak in person with them on the first day back and bring it up before anyone else brings it up. Explain how one has had others help in the process and would like to be open about it.
But new clients will see the khimari person at the interview stage and will not be necessary in that setting.
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i'll wear hijab the day my husband starts wearing a "topi"
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Are you married?
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i'll wear hijab the day my husband starts wearing a "topi"
philosophy ... are you married?
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philomenal are you merrieged?
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good girls don’t talk about their husbands.
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philo are you married?
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Where is this good girl you speak of 
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I always wonder about this too.
Can someone share any experiences that they have had when started wearing hijaab at the workplace that they worked in already?
Did you let your co-workers know that you are going to do this for support?
HR? (for any harassment issues).
your boss?
Just one day did it and fielded the questions as they came.
What did you ask say as to why you started wearing hijaab all of a sudden.
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i'll wear hijab the day my husband starts wearing a "topi"
But topi is not mandatory as per Islam but as per most major Islamic school of thoughts Hijab for women is mandatory. :@:
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I want to say so much and share so many of own personal experiences just to put Confucius's fears to rest and to address njgal's post. But it's going to be one long post saying pretty much just one thing... it's NOT a big deal. It's not a big deal. It's not a big deal. Catskin mentioned that it is a life changing decision. I beg to differ. A scarf on its own doesn't have that sort of power to turn your world around. YOU dictate your life... not a piece of cloth. Sounds to me like Confucius has MashaAllah already turned her life around for the better... a hijab is only going to act as icing on the cake. Did I mention it's not a big deal?
I was prepared for the worst when I started wearing the hijab. Thought I wouldn't be allowed into the labs. Thought I wouldn't get an internship. Thought I'd lose friends. Thought they wouldn't let me pray in college. Thought I wouldn't get a job or get into postgrad after graduation. What I ended up learning instead was that the world isn't all that ugly. Never have I faced discrimination (apart from being judged on the world wide web by random knowitall morons that I couldn't care less about). Never was I more confident than I am now.
If it wasn't that big of a deal for me here in Ireland where I am literally the only hijabi walking around in my city, I don't see why the Brits should be shocked by the hijab in this day and age. The only way for you to find out how much influence the hijab could have on your professional life is to test it out. I was going to say you may want to talk to your non-muslim friends/colleagues but the only person who should have a say in your personal choices is you. So wear it when you feel ready. I am 99% sure that it will not do you any harm. I'd be really disappointed if the Brits turned out to be otherwise ignorant. You'll be alrighttttt, is what I'm saying. =)
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Did you let your co-workers know that you are going to do this for support? **No. I didn't give anyone a heads up.
**HR? (for any harassment issues). **No. Had no harrassment issues.
**your boss? My boss thought that my hijabs were very pretty. :)
**Just one day did it and fielded the questions as they came. **That's exactly what I did. And no one asked any questions. Like BBQ said, it wasn't a big deal. Wearing a hijab is mainstream now.
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I want to say so much and share so many of own personal experiences just to put Confucius's fears to rest and to address njgal's post. But it's going to be one long post saying pretty much just one thing... it's NOT a big deal. It's not a big deal. It's not a big deal. **Catskin mentioned that it is a life changing decision. I beg to differ. **A scarf on its own doesn't have that sort of power to turn your world around. YOU dictate your life... not a piece of cloth. Sounds to me like Confucius has MashaAllah already turned her life around for the better... a hijab is only going to act as icing on the cake. Did I mention it's not a big deal?
I was prepared for the worst when I started wearing the hijab. Thought I wouldn't be allowed into the labs. Thought I wouldn't get an internship. Thought I'd lose friends. Thought they wouldn't let me pray in college. Thought I wouldn't get a job or get into postgrad after graduation. What I ended up learning instead was that the world isn't all that ugly. Never have I faced discrimination (apart from being judged on the world wide web by random knowitall morons that I couldn't care less about). Never was I more confident than I am now.
If it wasn't that big of a deal for me here in Ireland where I am literally the only hijabi walking around in my city, I don't see why the Brits should be shocked by the hijab in this day and age. The only way for you to find out how much influence the hijab could have on your professional life is to test it out. I was going to say you may want to talk to your non-muslim friends/colleagues but the only person who should have a say in your personal choices is you. So wear it when you feel ready. I am 99% sure that it will not do you any harm. I'd be really disappointed if the Brits turned out to be otherwise ignorant. You'll be alrighttttt, is what I'm saying. =)
That's because for me hijab is much more than just wearing a headscarf.