if your partner hides something, anything great little little, from you, you:
a) do not bother asking
b) intrude and catch unguarded
c) talk about this void to express distress
d) leave the partner alone, or
e) become distant yourself
thoughts?
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f)..Will giv her hints that i know shes hidin something from me, and will make her realise that she is wrong and therefore must tell me!
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1. Sometimes its better not to ask. You never know what monster is hiding in the closet and most of the times its not even worth it. So don't do this.
Having said that, its these little things that bothers you the most and you end up screwing things and missing the big picture. So don't do this either.
Be happy with things you already know and pursue a positive path in a relationship. Yes, do this.
*P.s. What you don't know won't hurt you.
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I dont think we hide anythign from one another. Im incapable of keeping secrets from hubby. And he knows that very well.
As for him, if he were keeping something from me, im sure it'd be for a very good reason so i wouldn't even bother. It's either to protect me from something or just not worth even mentioning. Both of which I'm happy with
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what if the person hiding secrets are nothing to you if thought sensibly? but he/she hides bcoz it might turn into a clash (depending on a person's temperament). such as if anybudy dislikes ur family or realtives just bcoz u love them and r close to them, u hide the discussions and related matters which r nothing to the other partner. what do u say now?
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Fortunately, me and my hubby dont hide anything from one another. But if something like this happens, I would enquire him abt this and discuss things over.
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e) pretend to hide something yourself 
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couples should not hide.
I would ask a general but direct question: Do you have something you want to tell me? or Do you have something you do not want to tell me?
It depends on the answer what I might do.
Example:
If answer is "Nothing" ..with a smile.
I will stop. And will wait for her to tell me later. Will not forget though.
If answer is Nothing. Why? (Serious gesture)
I will continue to press the issue.
Whats the worst thing that can happen?
And if it is worst thing then so be it. Let it come out.
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If my wife wants to hide something from me, it is her prerogative. If I find out that she has hid a certain thing from me, I forget about that. It does not bother me at all.
I do not hide things but there are certain things I do not want to talk about, like badmouthing people behind their back.
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If hiding affects the trust in the relationship than it is wrong. Otherwise, mystery is great for relationship and so is some space.
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The very only think I hide from my hubby is when I am having my cycle...I kinda avoid him at that time. Nothing else is hidden, we share all and everything and I would be so very hurt if there were something/anything that he felt he could not share with me. I would never ever read his email, regular mail or answer his phone. he has my complete trust. But if for some reason, he went astray then I'd be crushed. I'm not into playing games or anything, I'd just confront, discuss and be done with it.
NOT that it would ever happen mashallah! my hubby is JUST the best and those of you who have been here long enough to know verzie-saab well...he;s just poking fingers where they dont belong and you need to slap them and he will behave.