Hiding from soul mate/life partner

Lifestyle Relationships
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The other day i was sitting with a good friend of mine some how we got towards the topic of sharing your secrets. I was surprised and shocked when i heard she hides things from her husband. She is almost 10 yrs older then me but i couldnt find a single good solid reason for her to hide things from her husband. They been married for over 9 years i think.

If you cant share your feelings, secrets or emotions etc with him. How can you live with him or let him touch you.

I dont get it…care to explain…

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100% agreed. Thre isnt any reason to do so

I m not gonna hide any thing .......

I simply cudnt.

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But then what is sharing the secret would damage your relationship? The question then becomes whether to go though a bad patch right now, or whether to avoid it and hope that it won't come back and catch you at a worse time...

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Depends on the nature of the secrets..

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If the hubby is a dumbass, insensitive, always doubting her, and stubborn then she has every right to protect herself by hiding all her secrets. You Go Girl!

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Apparently alot of women do that,

f.e. Some relatives(read: aunties) of us wanted to send money to pakistan and asked me to send it for them, and they asked me NOT to tell their husbands.
And they couldnt send themselves, cuz if they did everything would come on the bankpapers :)

It seems, they just dont believe husbands can t / won t agree with them, and I cant say they are thinking wrong.

Still I find it not appropriate :o

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:k:

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Believe it or not nia, some things are encouraged to hide (though not necessary), even in Islam. smile

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It depends on what those secrets are. Some things are better left unsaid.

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Some things are best not said. Zaroori nahi har baat pay dhol peeto.

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Munni, care to share what islam encourages that you hide from your spouse? If you feel like you need to hid something from your spouse, you don't have a marriage, it's a sham, marriage means being able to trust your partner not to hide anything from you.

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hiding a secret from hubby to me seems difficult.. an i try to keep everything open with my hubby but there r things i kno he's gonna et upset about n he jus gets quiet.. an i hate that.. so i rathar keep it to myself than tell him.. i can handle a problem alone better than with him.. cuz then i got the problem to handle and i got to make him feel better bout it...

IM A BABY MARRIER!!!!!!!! lol...

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*Originally posted by aahmed: *
Munni, care to share what islam encourages that you hide from your spouse? If you feel like you need to hid something from your spouse, you don't have a marriage, it's a sham, marriage means being able to trust your partner not to hide anything from you.
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Yeah Munni please do shed some light on what Aahmed said : )

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Is marriage invasion of privacy? No wonder people don't wanna marry these days ...

Everyone keeps secrets, sometimes intentionally sometimes unintentionally, sometimes with good intentions, sometimes with bad!

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You got it ahmedjee :)