is that a game to be played between couples? gaming minds of any spouse is unacceptable and hurts beyond reprieve. how about such partners to be just let to run away?
a heart wrenching message of utter disregard comes out clearly, when a given spouse cheats, and then lies about cheating. life long effect of mind gamers's behaviors, in research done on realtionship, is that a) it KILLS the sanctitiy of the marital relationship with a non-cheating person & b) getting back together in educated and strong people, is an impossibility, thus such attempt of breaching a sacred realtion ultimately turn them into severely breached, non-relationship, to a point that the person would not want to see the dead body of the cheating spouse.
a lot of psychological trauma, inner pain, depression gets caused in the life of the one who is cheated. sometimes, people try to do like wise to their spouse who cheats on them. that is a weak method of sharing how one got hurt, though.
what is a strong method of sharing this, any thoughts? most women and men, may not look around, get excited by third person's presence or perceiveable opportunity to degrade own spouse to have an affair with the thrid person in view or potentially available.
yet, in the context of human desire, tempatation, still a mistake is a mistake. and it ought to be punished. share if you like. serious, objective and non-judgemental perspectives/thoughts, only. would you allow yourself the tough hearted decision to forgive your spouse if s/he were to play such hide and seek with you?
^ No. Thats the simplest answer.
For normal, usual, common, person infidelity is a serious matter. Man or woman.
How one deals with it, is different but one thing is for sure, the trust is broken.
Men are less tolerant or not at all tolerant. Women are also hurt but at times due to many other reasons some let this continue. Sad but true.