hide and seek

Lifestyle Relationships
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is that a game to be played between couples? gaming minds of any spouse is unacceptable and hurts beyond reprieve. how about such partners to be just let to run away?

a heart wrenching message of utter disregard comes out clearly, when a given spouse cheats, and then lies about cheating. life long effect of mind gamers’s behaviors, in research done on realtionship, is that a) it KILLS the sanctitiy of the marital relationship with a non-cheating person & b) getting back together in educated and strong people, is an impossibility, thus such attempt of breaching a sacred realtion ultimately turn them into severely breached, non-relationship, to a point that the person would not want to see the dead body of the cheating spouse.

a lot of psychological trauma, inner pain, depression gets caused in the life of the one who is cheated.
sometimes, people try to do like wise to their spouse who cheats on them.
that is a weak method of sharing how one got hurt, though.

what is a strong method of sharing this, any thoughts? most women and men, may not look around, get excited by third person’s presence or perceiveable opportunity to degrade own spouse to have an affair with the thrid person in view or potentially available.

yet, in the context of human desire, tempatation, still a mistake is a mistake.
and it ought to be punished. share if you like. serious, objective and non-judgemental perspectives/thoughts, only. would you allow yourself the tough hearted decision to forgive your spouse if s/he were to play such hide and seek with you?

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^ No. Thats the simplest answer.

For normal, usual, common, person infidelity is a serious matter. Man or woman.

How one deals with it, is different but one thing is for sure, the trust is broken.

Men are less tolerant or not at all tolerant. Women are also hurt but at times due to many other reasons some let this continue. Sad but true.

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Re: hide and seek

great. that was factual account. it is based on opinions of the societal establishment and on observations.

the distilled form of the issue, eventually comes down to either paying attention or not paying attention to such breach of trust.

means and manners of treatment are a wide spectrum, but the core of this is disappointment and sheer hurtfulness caused to the one who has not cheated and borne as guilt by the cheater.

both live with their given outcomes and for the rest of their lives, they will have paid the premium for being they way they were - one being insolent and dishonest at the highest level, and the other being unaware or unprepared to bear the shock .

the moment when the one who is hurt will rise, is the turning point for the perceptually intelligent other person, to acknowledge and realize openly, what s/he indulged in and accept the dis accord, as a fair punishment.

nothing, still will repair the relationship..
nothing, still will bring back a trustworthiness in the relationship
and thus, the tragedy of distant and embittered people, come full circle.

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Re: hide and seek

the game of hide and seek is meant for the kids or innocent players where they r truly unaware of its meaning and implication, where the players are quite clear where they were hidden and admit wen being caught. it is not meant for the adults or for the mature husband and wife. it is the game of winning and loosing. if one breaks the trust, he/she simply loses no more elaborations needed.

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Re: hide and seek

the issue of women keeping quiet or cutting slack, when their men, cheat on them, and especially the role of other women, as well, who simply destroy a sacred relationship, are straight away begging attention.
so that while the cheating partner is to be corrected, the societal disease of letting secret affairs ruin the married couples and their families, is a much broader and essential issue to address, very clearly for everyone.