Read an interesting blog that was featured on someone’s wall and it got me thinking…are we raising a bunch of “narcissistic people” as the next generation?
What this blogger describes is pretty common at middle-class desi weddings. You leave your seat and come back to find someone else seated there having their dinner…what do you do? Object? Ask them to vacate your seat? Get annoyed?
The blogger is in the wrong here, imo.
No one saves seats... but it IS understood that if someone is sitting at a table, they will keep sitting there. Even if they get up. I probabaly wouldnt have told the person off like the lady did... but i would be annoyed too.
If the family decided to take over the table, they could have asked if it was ok when the lady came back to the table... common courtesy. If i switch seats, i always ask if it is ok or if i am sitting in someone elses seat.
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Totally on “martyr” mom’s side. First of all, the blogger has 5 kids so she thinks she’s better than someone who’s having a hard time w 2? Hain? Also, why so much emphasis on how awesome her niece looks? is she the bride? 
Maybe it’s me but I fail to see how her “I’m so offended” diatribe has anything to do with a stolen seat. I don’t disagree with her point (about how people get offended) but I just don’t see how it relates to this example. Rather, the blogger is being pretty condescending and nasty towards the “martyr” mom.
Just bc stealing a seat is common doesn’t mean it’s right. Where should the person whos seat was taken away get to eat dinner if they can’t find another spot? If I was considerate enough to come to a wedding at a reasonable time to get a seat, why am I being punished by having ot awkwardly find another spot?
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Yup, me three! Totally wrong for her to have taken the seat. I would be hesitant to take the seat where someone else was sitting. It's just being considerate. Since when is that wrong? How does the blogger know the mother of 2 was offended? She could also turn around and tell the blogger how rude she was but she didn't. Some people have it so messed up and blame everybody else around them for what they can't do right.
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Hmm…this is interesting.
My two cents:
Whether you have two, four or ten…having kids is stressful. Kids = stress. I have only one and the last time I slept through the night was when I was 8 months along…after that it was over. So if I am up changing one diaper or two, its the same to me because its not like one child let’s me sleep in peace…still tired the next day 
Having them with you at a function is even more stressful. I think the blogger has a little bit of a holier than thou attitude which I have come across a lot after becoming a parent. Apparently, everyone has it harder, more difficult and is just so much more worse off than you…and because of that…you should thank your lucky stars. That’s not true. One person’s difficulty does not trivialize someone else’s. Sab apnay hissay ki mehnat karte hein…that’s how I see it.
So yeah…it was wrong for her not to at least look around and see if this lady who had 2 kids with her still needed the seat. Having kids should make you more empathetic…not judgmental.
I was traveling with my baby a couple of weeks ago…and I had his carrier with me…was totally prepared for anything to come my way but I wasn’t prepared for the amount of distress he was in on the plane. He wouldn’t relax. The people around me could have rolled their eyes and made me feel like “really, you can’t handle this one tiny kid?”…but there was a lady next to me who started to entertain Deen with things in her purse. It worked…and I was grateful that I wasn’t THAT woman with the screaming baby. Since the blogger has been there, she should have realized herself what that mom was probably annoyed about.
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Honestly, I would have been annoyed at this situation as well. How would she react if the young couple invited over friends and family and took over the whole table while she was gone?
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I also think the blogger is wrong in this situation. I have no idea what type of social crowd she is used to....but when I go to events, if a person is sitting in their seat and gets up, it is understood that the seat is theirs to come back. Especially at weddings when people routinely get up to greet others, get food/drinks etc. The only exception to this would be if the blogger had seen the other women and/or her family sitting at another table. The blogger herself got up to greet her family and later on to get food. So its ridiculous for her to say that the other family went off somewhere as opposed to recognizing that the other family most likely also got up to greet THEIR family or get food.
Additionally, the comments about having 5 kids instead of 2 and the other woman not being able to handle 2 kids makes the blogger seem like a stuck-up B****. Great for her that she can handle 5 kids with no problems. That doesn't give her the right to belittle another woman who may be overwhelmed by 2 kids. Blogger doesn't know the day-to-day details of the other woman's life.
I also find her last paragraph very ironic. This was a small annoying incident at a wedding. Yet the blogger cared about this enough to write about it 2 days later?! Seriously....who's the one whining here?
However, if someone took over a seat I was sitting at during a wedding, I would think that person is rude but I wouldn't say anything do them. But then again I also don't have the stress of having to look after any kids.
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If I got up for food and someone takes my seat, I don't make a fuss, degrade them or shout at them that you're sat at my place; I just find some place else to sit or stand and eat. At many events be it weddings, parties or something else, food is something that comes at the very last and usually people leave after that. So no point fighting over your seat and feeling entitled.
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The reason why I posted this here is because when I read the entry I didn't agree with the blogger and thought.....am I missing something here?
Is it wrong for someone to object to their seats being "rudely" taken over at a wedding, or any other function for that matter?
I wanted to see if anyone else got the same feeling as I did; that this blogger seems to be the one that needs to take a step back and think about what her actions say about her own character.
And yes....I'm going to say it......With her attitude, I do think that she might be raising a narcissistic group of kids that don't see beyond their own needs.
Isn't it just simple manners not to sit in someone else's seat?
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In desi weddings this is so common so I don't bother or I put something on my seat or ask someone to keep it.
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Blogger is passive aggressive.
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Blogger is definitely in the wrong here, she seems like a real weirdo. She is saying that girl shouldn't have made it a big deal but then what is she doing, making it an even bigger scene by whining about it on the Internet.
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It is so common at desi weddings, but it doesn't make it right. Weddings are so stressful with kids so the blogger should have bin a lot more sympathetic, considering she had 5 of her own.
What I normally do is that I leave something on the chair to show its occupied like a baby bag or something or she could have asked her to save her seat.
As for the blogger, as she she her family was coming, they either should have had the decency to show up on time, or else she should have saved them a seat, rather than taking someone else's. I would have been so annoyed, definitely would have seen red if someone took my seat as my kids detest weddings and it really is so stressful.
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Whether you have two, four or ten...having kids is stressful. Kids = stress.
Apparently, everyone has it harder, more difficult and is just so much more worse off than you...and because of that...you should thank your lucky stars. That's not true. *One person's difficulty does not trivialize someone else's. Sab apnay hissay ki mehnat karte hein...that's how I see it. *
Yes! I'm not a parent but I've seen and heard enough that 1 or 3 kids...stress is stress. So tired of seeing the smug comments "hawww hai why can't you handle 1/2/3 kids?" esp from other mothers. If your kid(s) is very easy to handle, shukar karo and move on.....why look down on someone?
Also, I'm still wondering why she mentioned how awesome her niece looked so many times throughout the blog. Weird weird weird.
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I am offended at you being offended at the blogger who is offended by an offending person.