It’s horrible!! Yesterday, my fiance had me make a promise to him that I’d eat three ROTIYAN everyday. The only problem is I CAN’T DO IT!!! I have eaten two and a half today and I feel extremely sick and anxious. He thinks I am too thin, which I probably am rightnow, but I DON’T LIKE ROTI OR DESI FOOD IN GENERAL!!!
HELP!! How do I tell him I can’t do it??? It’s making me crazy. My head hurts and all I can think about is the rotiyan I ate. Also tell me how can I make him change his promise from “eating roti” to eat something else???
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I was quite healthy when he used be here, but since he left I have lost too much weight, some due to deiting and the rest due to depression. I was feeling very low in the past few weeks (a lot has happened) and was taking sleeping pills regularly. When he found out, he got really mad. He had me promise not to take any pills and to eat three rotiyan everyday.
P.S. I haven’t slept since yesterday and I am still not sleepy… :halo:
You make the promise.
Tell him you are eating not
3 but 6 rotian per day.
When in reality you are only eating
as much as your stomach would let you.
Problem solved.
you like pasta? pasta's got enough wheat stuff like a roti. so you can eat that instead. or try eating a substitute for roti, like pita bread or tortilla (both flour and corn one). or try other non-desi food. just make sure you have a complete serving of the food. that should make your fiance happy.
I am confused… I tell him that I will eat 6 instead of 3 and why would I do that? He made it very clear that the rotiyan I eat have to be normal sized rotiyan. If I break the promise, he will break me into two. HELP!!
Khumar- I hate pasta! I don’t like roti, pita, tortilla, or any bread. I just don’t really like eating food anymore! I am almost a vegetarian. I can eat meat sometimes, it has to be too little though. I used to be a junk food junkie, but I can’t eat that anymore either. It’s really hard for me to find anything I like now. I have lost my appetite! Though I never liked desi food..
ease into it. make like smoothies and things like that. eat fruit. eat fresh foods. in any form you can. try different kinds of cuisines too. have you noticed where you eat the most? at home or out? which ever the situation is, do more of that :)
but most important is to get out of the slump you are in. i know that when people get stressed or depressed they do end up feeling turned off from food. so work on that as well.
Come on now do you really think he is going to break you into two???
Anyways… tell him you are trying to eat as healthy as possible.
Eating 3 rotiyan per day does not guranttee good health even
if you are under weight. Try to gradually increase your food intake
instead of putting food in your stomach all of a sudden.
Khumar- I like fruits. That's a good idea. I could probably talk him into this.. I can't eat anything heavy or spicy. I like fruits and vegetables. Are there any ready-made fruit dishes that I could buy? Also, if you know good tasting salads, share them. Anything that doesn't make my head turn upside down...
SAJAL- Of course he won't break me into two! He said he won't talk to me, which will automatically have the "breaking into pieces" effect on me. And exactly! I want to gradually increase my food intake.... he doesn't understand that. He thinks I am getting sick or something.
^^ well he's just worried about you obviously. and he's trying to help but it's obvious it's too fast for you. so yeah tell him that.
as for recipes head to life 4...TONS of awesome recipes there for salads and other yummy stuff. usually salads for me is anything that i have at hand, throw it together with a nice dressing (store bought....i'm lazy), or not. i'm not sure about ready made dishes though =/ fruit at the bottom of a cup of yogurt?
aww miss noland, try talking to your fiance and say you cannot possibly eat 3 rotiyaan per day and if suddenly u become huge its gnna b all his fault. u have to eat healhthy and as much as you can eat.
You've probably lost your apetite due to the depression you mentioned but eating 3 rotis will in no way help you get rid of that depression.
I think you;re fine and he should not force you to eat more when you cant. You should tell him that losing weight is due to mental issue and not physical so to get rid of it also you need to handle this differently not by eating more food. That's crazy and may give rise to other issues or complicate your situation.
So eat what you like but try to eat healthy. Depression is also caused by eating junk, unhealthy food and no excercise. Try moderate excercise daily and you will feel normally hungry then eat what you like but do not force yourself to eat.
Eating less should be a problem only if you also feel drained of energy. If you're feeling fine and energetic otherwise, do not change a things about your eating hebits and tell your finace not to try to change you.
yeah just tell him that u r eating that ;) i know at first u will feel guilty that u r lying but its ok ;) or jsut tell him straight in the face u cant do it u will eat helthier food but not 3 rotis
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Also tell me how can I make him change his promise from “eating roti” to eat something else???
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thats a married lady advice:k:
