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What advice would you give this woman?
Other thoughts?
Personal experiences?
Re: Her BF says: “I have a friend that’s a girl…”
I can understand that the guy feels somewhat hesitant to tell this girl about his girlfriend…especially when he doesn’t reciprocate the feelings that she has for him. That’s natural (to an extent)
But for that hesitation to grow into a “fear” is a bit much. He should tell her about the girlfriend…so that she understands that he is unavailable and that way she can move on with her life.
Why does he want to give this female friend the impression that he might be available …or that he’s unattached..or that there’s a chance for her? Does he enjoy the ego boost? It’s ridiculous and just sounds shady to me. This is how the “wants his cake and wants to eat it” -type situations arise.
Re: Her BF says: “I have a friend that’s a girl…”
To answer your question…
I think she has to a right to be weary, although she has male friends, she isn’t emotionally close with them. The bf and his female friend probably have a close emotional friendship. Especially if they usually talk from time to time and he hasn’t told her about them being bf/gf. Now I don’t think this will lead to cheating, especially if the relationship is good. But if that girl tries to pursue her bf, it might lead to something. If there relationship isn’t on the up and up. Anyways all of this is kind of conjecture but still.
Him not telling his friend about his gf is kind of unsettling, I always tell my friend of who i’m talking to, she does the same with me. I would assume he’s probably keeping her as a plan b. But tbh, it could be that she just got over a bad breakup and doesn’t want to tell her that he’s been dating someone?
If I was her, I would keep things status quo until she has more info, of course ask why he hasn’t told her and see what BS reason he gives.
Re: Her BF says: “I have a friend that’s a girl…”
well, one of her male friends might have feelings for her too…but she brozoned him…and he still likes her presence, so … whats so different? woman lady is being double standarder…
Re: Her BF says: “I have a friend that’s a girl…”
I would advise this woman to listen to her gut feelings. It’s stupid to continue dating a guy who is so obvious about hiding something (who knows what that something is).
Re: Her BF says: “I have a friend that’s a girl…”
I have a few female friends, with Bridgette we occasionally go out for lunch etc and my wife knows about it and is totally cool with it. People should trust each other. If you have a reason to distrust your partner then don’t be with him or her. I never hide anything, if I have lunch with her I will let my wife know.