how do you tell a friend who has been trying to get preggo for years that you have been blessed without hurting her. She was in Pak when i found out but now will be returning tomorrow. I have been there so i know exactly how it feels when someone tells you of their good news. I was never jealous but always felt empty inside. I honestly don’t want to put her in that position. I need all the suggestions to make this easier for her and myself. Thank you!!
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hmm..maybe don't tell her right away. are you in the early stages of your pregnancy right now?
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Mahru, i think just tell her
its a blessing… and uve been waiting for this for ages… and i reckon u should share the news.I bet she’ll be happier knowing u told her rather than u not telling her..
it may make her sad…but not because ur pregnant… she’ll be really happy for u…
congrats again!
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Congratz mahru,
i think she will understand, tell your friend, she will be the one listening to you on the phone and will come and sit with you when you need her.
congratz once again, may Allah (swt) help you through this amazing time.
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Congrats Mahru
Its better to tell the truth rather than hide, lie or delay it.
Allah[swt] May make it easy on you. Ameen.
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Mahru.....first of all congrats hugs
I think just tell her ....your news might even lift up her spirits n give her hope....at least thats what happened to me when i found out in your journal n thought about my cousin....who's in the same boat.
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Well, i think it wud be pretty obvious by looking at ya won’t it ? 
Mubarak ho 
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don't tell her too soon.... wait a bit and try to be more subtle.. say at first 'i think i might be pregnant, i'm gonna take a test'... and then few days later phone her to tell her that it's confirmed.
btw... is your friend naturally very jealous?
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First, many congratulations to you!!! You are truly blessed!
I've been in the same boat as your friend. My struggles with infertility and then the treatments, a miscarriage etc were just heart-wrenching hell.
When I heard of the success of other people, it was a mixed reaction. A little bit of self-pity to be sure....but also, a sense of well, maybe I'm next, maybe God/Allah will see fit to spread the happiness around to me too since he's in the area anyway!
I think your friend will be truly delighted for you. And she should be allowed to have a little bit of a pity party too - just tell her that you hope she's next.
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Congratulations Mahru :) Wishing you and ur baby-to-be good health.
Keeping the good news from her may hurt her more. Just go ahead and tell her. May Allah bless her too.
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Thank you all for sincere replies.
My friend is not a jealous type of person. I know she would be very happy for me. But at the same time she will look at herself and be hurt because i know the times when she used to come over and somehow we would start talking about how we were not able to conceive and etc and i was the stronger one never cried but she would breakdown and start crying in front of me and that would make me so sad and i wold give in and join her in the crying party. So, all i see is her sad face. Although, i will tell her but i just don't want to cause any pain for her. She has more than just simple infertility issues. I do pray for her daily. And, I know she will become a mom too...soon, InshaAllah.
I just hate to be the cause of her pain.
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Ms Mahru, you are truly a good friend. And I'm sure she realizes that and will have every happiness for you. And in a strange sort of way, even tho she will have some personal pain out of hearing your happy news, it will even more cause that much greater joy when - mashallah - she has happy news to share about herself. Since you've "been there, done that", I think you can relate to what I'm trying to say here. Tell her! Give her a huge hug and wish her to be next, thats the very best thing you can do for her.
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Thanks, Mamaof3. She is coming back today so i will go visit her sometime next week and tell her in person. Do you think i should phone her and tell her or in person??
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Mahru, I honestly think when she sees you she will know instantly! its not that hard to hide 
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Mahru share your joy with her in person, hold her hand and hug her if she cries, it will be more personal and gentle than telling her over the phone. Best of luck and congrats!
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Tell her in person. The "magic" you carry when you give her a big hug may just rub off on her!!
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Mahru lots of congrats to you girl. 
How far along are you?
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congrats! how long have uve been trying for?? well im in the same boat as ur friends...all my friends/cousins are getting pregnant every other month...i think u shoudl just tell ur friend, but dont make it like a big deal (like..finally! imn pregnant...it was taking so long..)...i hate when my cousins do that...some of them say that there might be somehitng wrong with them..and then one day..they are preg (even though they had kids before...urgghh!)..i think ur friend will be happy for you...for me, i feel disappointed that how come im not getting preg and feel sorry for myself and blah blah blah...but i would never be hurt/upset/angry at my friend/cousin...i think ur friend would feel the same...
but there is one thing i wish my friends and cousins actually did..i wish they woudl have involved me with their kids/pregnancy...like going shopping for kids clothes..inviting me to bday parties and stuff...i hate it when pple feel sorry for me and stuff...
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Congrats!!
I wish I had such a caring friend like u!!I think u shud tell her in person!!
But since she is returning from Pakistan she might be coming back from a ense period. PPl in Pk literally get on ur nerves if one has been trying to conceive for ages. She might be really really upset after having experienced that in PK.
So let her talk when u meet. bring her a teddy bear and tell her that u want ur and her children to play with that teddy one day:)
Show her care and affection later on..maybe by arranging for Quran Khawani at ur place making dua for her. u dont have to tell all the guests what the purpose is but tell her that u r arranging quran khwaani for the health of ur child and for her.
But make sure that u dont overdo it:)
Good luck:)