How do you know the relatives didn’t help?
If you’re in a position to help a friend…be thankful that you’re in such a position that someone asks u for help…and earn some brownie points by helping them without getting annoyed or thinking ro asking anything.
I find it really disheartening and humiliating even…to talk to someone, even for a minor thing, and in turn they say “why cant u ask someone else?” because chances are, I dont have that comfort and friendship with someone that i can ask them for assistance. by them showing annoyance or telling you to do something else, to me its saying “i dont care about you, dont bother asking me for help.”
its bad enough that she has relatives who didnt bother to help…having friends who get annoyed at her just makes her better off without such friends or relatives.