Re: Helping Friends: The Other Gender.
?? Don’t who this is directed to, but OP has every right to consider it and doesn’t mean she’s being inconsiderate. Her husband has already gone beyond the basic responsibilities of a friendship by giving her money. There are many ways to offer help, but leaving behind family to travel across the nation is a bit too much IMO. I’ve seen these situations ending badly (either end of friendship or end of marriage) especially if the grieving person starts demanding more and more of the persons time as the year goes by. I can see this happening and a line needs to be drawn somewhere where it’s not affecting your own personal life. A grieving person can become attached and dependent on a person especially if they’re lonely and don’t have a support system of their own. And it becomes more awkward later on so it’s better to set boundaries early. There are so many ways to help and support her without it affecting his own marriage.