My husband’s behavior gets weird when my sister and BIL visit our home.though apparently he acts fine but he pretends as if he is very busy and comes home so late from office.then when he gets home, he locks himself in a room and just sits with the laptop the whole day.i dunno what is his problem.my sis and BIL are so nice.we live in KSA and we women can’t go out on our own.now its been 2 days that my sis is here in my home and my hubby’s behavior is kinda rude..i am soooo upset and sad..i dunno what to do.he does not even ask us that if we want to go to mall or somewhere out.i mean this is so rude.what should i do?i dunno y he shows this attitude.otherwise he is nice to me and we daily go out.but when my sis is around he acts weird.
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have you ever asked him why he does it??
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Are there any issues that he has/had with your sister...even prior to marrying him?
Has your sister noticed his behavior and said anything about it to you? Would she have an idea?
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why is he so rude with aadhi ghar wali? any past incident/bad experience?
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What is he like around other strange women? What's he like with your BIL?
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it may be that he is not a social person? he feels awkward when you have your family around? does he feel unwanted? feels like he is intruding? maybe he feels attention deprived and feels he rather lock himself up and not come out from room so u can spend alone time with sis.
u need to tell him that u wanna go out or ask him what's the matter.
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When guys do this its because they simply don't feel like being social.
You can talk to him and tell him that his behavior is coming across as rude and you don't want your family thinking you married someone who doesn't know how to behave among people.
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Some men are like that...you can take a cab to the mall? No?
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live in KSA and we women can't go out on our own..he does not even ask us that if we want to go to mall or somewhere out.
1) Why are you waiting for HIM to ask? Have YOU asked him to take you and your sister out?
2) As others have already brought up....have you told you husband in private how his behavior gives the impression that he's rude and how that effects you emotionally?
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Suddenly we got heavy earth quakes here. pray for us
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I know guys like that. My hubby has such tendencies too. I think they don't realize they are being rude, or that their behavior may be hurtful to others. THey feel the person is in my house, and I don't mind, isn't that enough? They don't realize they make the person feel unwelcome through their behavior.
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Challenger to nadz :bigthumb:
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It's simple, he doesn't like your sister and/or her husband. Whatever the reason for this, being rude to a guest when they're on your turf/at your mercy is in bad taste.
The excuses being made for him/men in general are a tad surprising. Being a considerate host, treating guests with kindness is not gender-specific behavior. Men are not clueless gnats. Not being "social" is not an excuse for locking yourself in your room to avoid guests, let alone relatives living in your house. It's becoming of a sulking teenager, not the head of a household.
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Not condoning hie behavior. But -
If your sister is older than you by say 6 years and was married much earlier than you AND if you are married for < 2 years - he may feel like a newbie among you folks. While you may have bonded with your sisters husband. So he may feel the odd person out.
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trying to get one over the susraal?
trying not to be too friendly with susraal waley?
Unfortunately, still the predominant thinking with us desi men!
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you might treat his siblings this way......so he reciprocates
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Maybe he isnt comfortable hanging around your sister? I can see that his behavior may seem as rude or disrespecting.
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have you ever asked him why he does it??
no i didn't as yet..i think discussing this thing might give rise to some sort of fight or misunderstandings..i don't want "my family and ur family" type of fights..
Are there any issues that he has/had with your sister...even prior to marrying him?
Has your sister noticed his behavior and said anything about it to you? Would she have an idea?
1-No..
2-Yes,its quite obvious
3-yes
why is he so rude with aadhi ghar wali? any past incident/bad experience?
no
What is he like around other strange women? What's he like with your BIL?
at times quite chatty and at times quiet...same behavior with my BIL..
it may be that he is not a social person? he feels awkward when you have your family around? does he feel unwanted? feels like he is intruding? maybe he feels attention deprived and feels he rather lock himself up and not come out from room so u can spend alone time with sis.
u need to tell him that u wanna go out or ask him what's the matter.
yes ..he is not very social..but how come he feels so uncomfortable with my sis and BIL everytime they come...ok fine if he is hesitant,he still can by respectful or courteous..
When guys do this its because they simply don't feel like being social.
You can talk to him and tell him that his behavior is coming across as rude and** you don't want your family thinking you married someone who doesn't know how to behave among people**.
usually to these kind of statements his reply is "i dont care what others think"
Some men are like that...you can take a cab to the mall? No?
no i am not allowed:(
I know guys like that. My hubby has such tendencies too. I think they don't realize they are being rude, or that their behavior may be hurtful to others. THey feel the person is in my house, and I don't mind, isn't that enough? They don't realize they make the person feel unwelcome through their behavior.
exactly.
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thats not a sensible advice…sorry
yes his beh is rude and disrespecting..but he doesnt know about it or may be he is doing this deliberately…i dunno 
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don't you think you should talk to him to resolve the issue and not post it here?