I have this problem and i don’t know how to solve it…i was thinking of doing Istikhara but i already had this negative feeling about it - I asked an Imam and he told me that if someone already has aa strong feeling towards something then one should just follow his heart and not go for Istikhara. Now i have want to do something but my mind tells me its stupid but my heart says i should go with it and do as it says…i have a problem with someone i don’t expect it to get resolved but i just want to vent my feelings in front of her…but my mind says she might drag this thing and involve our family etc but my heart says trust in Allah and everything will turn out to be good so i should rather feel free and express my thoughts to her…i can’t do istikhara for now because of the … ahem ahem factor…but i can’t wait for 7-8 days either…what to do? because my mind is not getting any peace and i am stressed out.
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Istikhara is asking for Allah's guidance in the act of Khair. You dont ask for Allah's guidance in that act of Shar. Make sure that your intended act is not act of shar (although it looks like one). Just because you have a problem with someone does not make you a victim. Maybe you are wrong in this matter and the other party is right. Also, venting your negative feeling to someone on his/her is not a nice thing to do anyways.
If you have to, use people skill and maybe have a sensible 3rd party present there.
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No i mean i want to talk to that person and tell them how i feel because of their certain acts but i also want to resolve this issue amongst the two of us only rather then bringing the family in between. Its not about being right or wrong i just don't know whether i should raise the issue or not...i just want to know whether its right to talk about the issue or not...thats all...shar war i don't know what it means.
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If you think that a good could come out of that and your intentions are good then go ahead inshallah.
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Thats the problem, i don't know what will happen and i am for now expecting the worst out of this...i don't want to create a scene/drama/fight etc just want to get over it by saying what i feel...but the other party might not keep it to themselves...which is why i am confused...
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then dont say it .. I guess.
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Isn't there any alternative to Istikhara? i can't pray these days so i was wondering if there is a tasbeeh if i can read or something like that which might get me the answer..i.e. a feeling or something.
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Peace teelobhain
How about some good advice? Tell someone else you trust the whole issue in detail and they can give you a sound word or two. I'm sure if you PM some people here they can offer some light ... inshaAllah.
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PM who? tell me someone i can talk to...