hey guys…i have been wanted to post this for a while buh i was very nervous..its sort of a sensitive topic..but i hope i’ll get some honest opinion from u all..so here’s the situation..my cousin has got this rista from dubai..throw one of there family member that saw her at a wedding…they seem to be very good ppl..buh living in montreal..we know nothing for sure..her parents do have a good feeling abut this but at the same time… we have no relatives in dubai that can find out for us…problem number two the guy wants to talk to my cousin n see her live on msn..buh knowing my family they’ll never let that happen (the whole shadi se pehle nahin mill sakte…)..This has been going on for a while, there family calling ours…buh nothing is really for sure yet…n now the guy wants to come down to montreal in a a couple of months…n were all very confused…any opinions??
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The families hsud meet first before the girl & boy and be satisfied.
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Tell the adults to come out of their cave and join the rest of humanity, we are in the 21st century for crying out loud.
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its kind of difficult to meet up being so far away.
orpheus i do agree with u.. but looking at there point of view as they say ..they don't want the guy to later give any tana..or say something later on if this rista does work out..to my cousin..we usually don't get married out side the family buh..since there so many girls n less boys in the family we don't have a chose...
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there is nothing wrong in meeting up accompanied by a mehram. also if it doesnt work out so what u folks should nt worry about it and move on
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i know exactly what u mean... a referral to a good rishta, but investigating it in another... it does get complicated at times when ppl are so far away!
Before anything, the PARENTS should meet first. If they are happy, and it is the demand of the guy/girl, then they should be allowed to meet as well, as long as they two are not isolated and there is a mahram present. It Islamically allowed for two ppl to meet with the intention of marriage, then there is nothing wrong with it inshallah and the girl's parents should accept that.
w/o the two families meeting, it is useless for the guy and the girl to talk on msn as there is no assurance that the families accept each other.
Pray to Allah SWT for guidance.
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i dont see any problems in the guy wanting to meetup wid the gil, i mean he is goin to spend the rest of his life with this person, i dont think its wrong to meetup and if things are really that complicated let the girl be accompanied by an adult (gonna b awkward) but well… :k:
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sorry no time to comment as yet but your “buh’s” are annoying me…its like whenever i am reading your post, i can feel myself making this sheep noise…beeehhh!! 
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Tell the adults to come out of their cave and join the rest of humanity, we are in the 21st century for crying out loud.
forget the 21 st century....even in our beloved prophet's (SAW) days it was allowed to see each other once before getting married.
In Islam a woman who wears niqab is allowed to show her face to the man she is about to marry. So why cant a guy come over to see/meet his potential bride?
If the guy and girl want to see each other and talk to each other to see if they are compatible....then the parents shouldnt say no...because it it their Islamic right to do so before they get married.
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I think it is right to want to get to know your 'would be' partner better before you fully commit.
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well its upto the cousin's family to decide.. if they are considering the proposal they should arrange for the watchout for the larhka... ipersonally do not see any harm if they both (the larhki and larhka) do see each other live or on msn... Its rather better. i guess ur consins' family is not taking the proposal quite seriously or thingswouldnt be so dwindling this far.