I’m hyper sensitive! There was this time when every little thing used to make me cry. I used to stay silent and tolerate whatever the other person said/did and cry about it later. But now things are way different. I can’t tolerate even the most teeny meeny things. I get pissed easily. I have become very irritant and belligerent. Even if it’s a VERY VERY minor thing. I end up having fights, storing grudges, and breaking off relationships. I don’t want this to happen. But it’s as if my anger takes control of me now. I have many friends, and I’m glad they all care for me and never intentionally hurt me, but still this feeling persists. I don’t want people to label me as “attitude disaster”, “hermit” etc etc. I don’t know why this is happening, maybe becuz I have tolerated a lot in the past, and so feel that I need to be expressive now?
Can it be bcuz of overwork? My best friend’s abroad now, so maybe it’s due to loneliness too? I have no idea! Maybe I feel the same way as Sara516 does…:S
try liking yourself, giving YOU the attention and time, and not others.. it may sound selfish, but its really not..
see, i believe (cuz i have no other way to prove myself) that REAL strength comes from within, NOT from inspiration and not from examples in front of u.. when you LIKE yourself, it changes your attitude towards life and people involved in it..
(there is an old saying, the way a man treats himself is the way he treats others) once u can find THAT focus-point in you, NOTHING shakes u off, and no disaster can strike u down..
Faizyyy! I have a VERY high self-esteem. I love myself. It's me first (in most cases, depends really).. and then others. I don't treat ppl like trash with no reason, but I end up feeling that people just walk all over me. Ghussa bohot ata hai mujhay ab. The list of ppl I hate is increasing :P
Look anger is a reaction. Maybe something was taking away from you or you've been neglected in the past resulting in varies types of emotions. Try to blend into your community or circle of friends and also discuss the same thing with your friends or family members.
You mentioned over work, friend overseas and loneliness, which one of these is the main reason? I think its your friend overseas because you seemed to be a practicle and straight forward person. What do you think?
yar its simple dont let people get to you. I swear people can sit there say crap and i simply keep on doing what i have to to in life.
People try to play with your mind they wnat you to react- dont react play their game wisely. It will bother them once you stop reacting and slowly they will go away.
Now no one bothers me because they realized no matter what they say it does not effect me *grin - yes people who are close to me it does effect me when they say something - usually thats not the case but when it does oh well i do talk.
but most of all love my mom - she accpet me the way i am without any questions :~ LOVE THAT FEELING...
At work - never take part in office politics.. listen everything but dont say a word
with people you hand out with - go out have fun let them say whatever they want- in my headi go 'i am popular they got nothing else to do but to praise nia' so what if its all negative things.
Friends- we talk if there is something that bothers us
Everyday people - Just smile when they say something nasty... they are having a bad day so they say negative things its ok .....
look at it this way all are nutcases except you :~)
whenever you get pissed off remind yourself its not YOU instead its the devil inside and you as a muslim need to defeat him! When you think that way your attitude changes too.
Famous hadith about temper: “whenever you feel your are loosing your temper, try drinking water if that don’t works try to sit and if tht don’t then lay down!”
I had the WORST temper ever among many people I knew. I would get into fights easily doesn’t matter where I am. I am not sensitive but I just had a bad temper since I was going through a lot. But now when I see myself and those people who knew me as HIGH- TEMPERED (specially my family) they don’t believe I am the same person. Now, ALhamdullilah nothing pisses me off and the only way I changed it is by the technique I told you. It will take time honey…it took 7 days to make this universe and what makes you think you can overcome your faults in a jeepy (i always wanted to say that ).
Anyways, asking help from Allah (s.w.t) is the best help u can ever ask for :k:
sparkly eyes i was the same way, but i changed myself. When ever the anger builds in ur self, dont take it out (i know its healthy but its not that healthy) U need to create homeostatis. When ever ur pissed drink water, sit and think about the situation. It will surely help u not say anythin that u will regret later.
Maybe all of this is happening to u coz of ur best buddy moving to another place.
then you gotta start ignorance-factor.. as nia suggested, i would add a lil bit to it ..
so u hear something nasty from somebody..FIRST thing u should think of is that person significant ENOUGH to give second thought to the stuff that just came outta that mouth?
now, each time u HAVE to think about this, give that person a negative rating.. slowly you will see, NO ONE in this world is coming to that significant-level to lose you your temper..
since you do realize that you get upset easily, how about next time you think you are about to get angry, just step back, count to 10 and leave the room if you have to momentarily to avoid losing your temper. This will give you time to analyze the situation and control your reaction.
does this make u feel better 
