Theres this lady i need to help, seriously she needs alot of it. Her husband made her sign on some papers n offcourse she being the pagal desi house wife belives him after he has lied like a million times and is with another wife. Now she doesnt know what those papers were but after soemthing(i cant give too much out) happened shes pretty sure they were some sort of consent papers for either the custody of the children or child support. I need to get her some sort of help, well a lawyer actually but she doesnt speak english n i dont know any desi lawyers n i cant be with her 24/7 infact if her husband finds out i am helping her he will probably try doing something to me too cuz thats wat he does to everyone that tries to help her. He tapped her phone too somehow(which is illegal). But yeah are there any orgnizations otu there that can help her? He gets back like tom or tonite, so i need to give her something ASAP.
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Where are you located? I might know some people who can help her out for free and provide legal assistant for free of charge.
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michigan
I am thinking maybe she should call the cops right now and tell them about the fraud sigs n how one of her kids is missing. That should atleast get the cops after him n then go from there.
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i looked on the sakhi website and theres no info for women in michigan, I have no idea wat to do
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If she's signed the papers, its going to be a hard case. Sorry to say. Unless you can prove that she doesn't read english at all.
Go to your local police dept and ask for help. That's the only place I can think you can go to - they'll give you a listing of resources in the state she can go to. If there is a crisis call center or helpline of some sort, then they can also provide you resources. Look under domestic abuse type resources as well.
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Ok, give me few hours. I will call my friend and see how her company can help your friend or they know someone in Michigan who can help her out.
If she said they can help your friend out, I will PM you their phone number where your friend can call and talk to them in any desi language she speaks, but SHE has to make that call, not someone else on her behalf.
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but she doesnt speak english though, do they have translaters or something? Thats why i was wondering if thers some sort of desi hotline so she can do it herself. I dont wanna do it for her cuz u never knwo when he will sweet talk her and she will back out
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thats wat i am looking for, i dont wanna do this for anyways..please please let me know whenever u find out. Thanks!
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another suggestion, she should get a cell phone, one thats a "pay as you use it" type and put it on vibrate, keep it on her person. laws protect the mothers here, more so than the fathers. I'm sure there must be women's crisis shelters in her area, they can be of enormous help in getting her out with her children and finding appropriate legal counsel, in many cases free of charge. Try yellow pages under "crisis" or "women", something like that. prayers for her and her children.
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If she has signed any papers then obviously she has done so under duress. She can say that she was threatened. The papers will not stand up in court.
But seriously....if you think that the guy will sweet talk her and she will back out, then why stick your neck out for her?
Remember, you cannot help someone that hasn't made up her own mind. You must make sure that she is ready and willing to take a stand for herself. If she backs out, where does that leave you and the agencies trying to help her? Furthermore, if she makes a habit of backing out like that, her case becomes weak and less credible when she really needs out.
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I guess if you're successful in helping her that'd be a big thing but usually these kind of women don't have enough confidence to talk to lawyers or go through court process. I personally tried to help a woman whose hubby kept her in Pak for more than 9 years and secretly married another woman here, she only found out about it last year but she did not agree to talk to a lawyer to fix the jerk and went back home. Was a pretty sad case...
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^ See that's the problem. Women are too afraid to stick up for themesleves in our society. People complain about high divorce rates, but its situations like these that call for divorces.
I wish we had more desi lawyers specializing in family law.
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Or lawyers had people who could translate for the desis.
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I don't know how the system works in the US. But here in the UK ...if you can show elements of duress etc there are defences that can be pleaded entirely or partially dpending on what she has been made to do. I am a legal professional in the UK, if you had been here I might have been able to help you. I am sorry
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p.s. Family is an area of law that asian pple run away from because noone wants to address the issues associated with it.