From an Islamic point of view…how logical is it to judge a daughter if her mom is a sinner…?
What Im trying to ask is that if a lady is having an affair with some1 else, and u know da girl is pure, in every sense, she even prays 5 times a day, is a partial Hafiz of many Surahs, would u marry this girl, regardless of what her mom has done…?
Where in Islam is it mentioned, that a guy cannot marry a girl, if her mom is evil(having an affair)…? Where is it even mentioned, state Ayat or Hadith, that a parents sin is carried on to a child…?
Im pretty sure, many of u are aware of this fact that families dig up da entire history of a girl’s family back in Pakistan, but how reasonable or logical is this method really is…?
How can u blame a girl’s sin on her parents, or a parent’s sin on da girl…? Its like going back into da dark ages, when girls were buried alive…!
Upbringing is a seperate case altogether, u cannot judge some1 by how educated or how loaded (financially) he/she really is…!
You most definately do not have a right to judge her.Sometimes there are great , religious people who have children who arent so religious.In this case its the other way around.
I dont think theres anything wrong in marrying such a girl.You would probably have trouble with parents..they'll bring up the mother...but its up to you.
I thought no human is responsible for the sins committed by others... at least on the day of judgment...then why would you judge them otherwise here in this world?
Who said that there is something like that in islam >?
Short answers
Religiously…
There is no problem, if both guy and girl are adult, they want to marry, go ahead :k: . The affair of mother certainly is her personal act. But If I were in your place, I Would have made sure that this is an isolated act, and not something which runs in the family.
Socially..
You have to prepare mentally for future event(s), which may take some bad shape and (God forbid) adversely affect you marraige.
^ code - it is an isolated act, else do u think some1 would be wise enough to marry in a "kanjar" khandan...? Its da social aspect which I think bothers every1...!
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*Originally posted by funguy: *
I thought no human is responsible for the sins committed by others... at least on the day of judgment...then why would you judge them otherwise here in this world?
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I wish every1 would understand this aspect funguy. If we are to blame our sins on our parents & parents sin on children's, this would logically defy every rule of accountability that Almighty Allah has set...!
[quote] Originally posted by MQ
You most definately do not have a right to judge her.Sometimes there are great , religious people who have children who arent so religious.In this case its the other way around.
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A very beautiful point MQ, I guess, it just shows that humans are all different...I mean Cat Steven...aka Yusuf Islam is now a Muslim, so do we say his parents raised him like this or was he guided by Allah...?
Waisay a general question to all of u, what if u were in this scenario, answer honestly, what would u do, if ur parents knew about this, & they are not accepting da girl, in fact blaming da entire scenario on da poor gurl, would u still marry her...?
does this question even has to be answered? no man or woman should suffer on the account of another person. ppl who discriminate are wrong..wallah o alam