hello all guppies,
pl ease help me with this issue i have.i have noticed this recently that whenever my husband talks with my Mother in law on the phone as we live abroad,altho the conversation is very general but it seemd like she phookafies something or what , that after my husband is off the phone he behaves oddly around me,he gets irritateted very easily , takes everything i say or do negatively and thinks i am trying to pick a fight all the time. i think its a case of nazar or something cos while she was here few mnths ago visiting us, she wasnt particularly happy to see th eundersatnding i have or used to have with my husband and i could literally sense jealousy and hostilty all the time.
she always used to mention around me how she never had a right to speak in matters until after 18-20 yrs of marriage and all.
so i really think that she unciously or otherwise is creating an omen around me.i feel sad and unhappy since she has gone back,my husband and i constantly bicker and once the fight escalted to man-handling too for which i was very scared and surprised.and since she left ,everytime he speaks on the phone with her ,we argue almost immediately over noting,
may i remind you, my sas recites alot and once very proudly told me that she knows certain ayats anbd duas that she has used to control her husband.she prides that she recites for people and their tasks are done,she claims she recites for us too but i strongly feel its working oppsotite.
plaese help as i am alone and no one to help.
Re: Help with Nazar
You two need marriage counseling.
Once you two calm down then think over what was the fight about and how it started. If he was man handling you that is a sign of a very depressed or very aggressive person , in both cases it id imperative on him to seek professional help from a psychologist or psychiatrist.
It is 21st century , jhar ,phoong , jadoo tonay ka zamana guzar ga-ya./ It is 21st century magic , voodoo , or anything of that sort does not work any more.
Re: Help with Nazar
well i think IF these things worked in 20th or 19th century they can certainly work now...but these are satan's works. Prophrt (p.b.u.h) taught us to pray 5 times a day, seek refuge in Allah from satan, say the last 3 quls for protection from jealous people and people who do magic.
follow on Allah's path As Allah is the strongest and most powerful of all. that we fear.
some ppl do wazifay claiming world is running smoothly bcz of their prayers.
Allah is as much yours as hers. and He knows our intentions also.
Have faith in Allah Alone.
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it doesn't necessarily have to be "jadoo tonay", it could definitely be a nazar. stuff like this is timeless, there's no "zamana" for it. even though what you're saying is a little odd for a MIL to do, there's no doubt that some DO do it. and by it, i don't mean praying for her son and DIL to fight, but praying to still be the sons first priority. i guess all you can do is pray for yourself..that usually helps. or just talk to your husband, you never know, maybe it's not what she's "phooking", maybe it's what she's saying.
Re: Help with Nazar
Just recite Surah Fatiha, AyatulKursi, Surah Kausar and droodh-e-Ibrahimi in low pitch and blow towards him. It will help you a lot.
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Could be that u r getting bothered and suspicious about what she is saying to him, and this is reflected in your manner / sub-conscious behaviour which hubby picks up on and he gets annoyed with it bcos he thinks there no reason for it. (Of course one can never really underestimate the meddling of meddlesome mother-in-laws, but husbands should never know that, lol!)
Read the last 3 verses of the Quran and blow on your palms 3 times, then wipe your hands over your right side and left. Ask your husband to do the same, 3 times each, every night and morning.
Give up dwelling on what MIL may or may NOT have done / said, you will never know and speculation just produces more negative feelings in your relationship.
Hope things get better for you.
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Listen, Allah is powerful and will always support good over evil. Do you have any concrete evidence that you mother-in-law is blowing phoonks over the phone? Have you heard the phone conversations between your husband and his mom?
And what special "Ayats" is your mother-in-law reading/reciting? Are they from the Quran? The ayats from the Quran are used to heal people.....they're not supposed to be used for evil. So, maybe it is something else that your MIL is reciting.
If you are seriously concerned....then pray namaz 5 times a day. Recite the Ayatul Kursi and the three Quls (soorah Ahad, Falak, and Naas) and blow over yourself and your husband and the food you both eat/water you both drink. Read the last few verses of Soorah Baqarah and blow through out your house. And pray to Allah to provide you relief.