who is she to boss you around? this is why its a terrible idea to live under your inlaws roof. im sorry you have to put up with such a horrible woman. you are not her slave to do all her housework for her. tell your husband he needs to find a separate housing.
if you don’t listen to her and do what you want, whats the worst thing she can do? if you stay too long at your parents, what is she really gonna do other than complain about it? let her complain, who cares? if she constantly complains about you to your husband maybe he will be forced to move out and live separately from his mother. i think you give in too much and thats why your MIL takes advantage and your husband thinks everything is going great