Help with Guests :(

[queen_24]

Re: Help with Guests

@Sehrysh

A hostess’ job is to ensure that her guests are enjoying themselves, so the fact that your guests are enjoying each other’s company and not entertaining you is an issue because…?

Like el topo said, get your kitchen preps done in advance so you can sit with the ladies and then try and lead or at least participate in the conversation. As the hostess you set the tone for the evening - there is no compulsion to make sevaiyan for the men (tea and coffee is different) - don’t become a slave to the kitchen - that’s your choice.

Don’t really have an idea, maybe I failed to deliver my concern properly If you take cooking on request makes me a slave to the Kitchen, how can you justify Women involved in each other leaving me behind wont make feel like a slave? There is nothing about being slave to the kitchen when treating the guests. Secondly, the families are more like our own families than guests. I don’t consider them as guests. The circle we have is more of like a family. Even when I visit them, I make sure to help them as much as I can. And I think that’s more entertaining than being formal and sit aside. The only issue is that B is pregnant and in her last trimester and it wouldn’t be good too if I involve everyone with me and leave her aside. So the situation is quite complicated. There is nothing wrong and mean… its just the situation. Rest, I know well how to treat my guests and to be honest, all of them are most comfortable when we plan the party at “our” house.. they get really entertained and we have plenty of space for them to stay over-night, without their privacy being disturbed. The party won’t at all be formal… we are too close. All the men are friends to my husband from almost his Primary School.

@AFayiz

This is very natural thing i suppose. However even i was thinking that you gonna write in the next lines that they did not talk to each other and the environment was ruined :). It does not matter at all if they talk, rather you can involve them with you. I move in a multi cultural circle and this happened to me several times that when Bangladeshis are around they would speak Bangla, initially I felt perturbed but then I thought if I had Pakistanis around I would talk to them oin my language thats too natural and specifically when you are abroad. However having patience while seeing them talking in Bangla helped me to understnd Bangla and now when they talk I do understand 40-50%.
Just let them talk and involve them by you prompting yourself. I believe you would have open kitchen n lounge as in West it is so its easy to socialize even if you are washing dishes or doing any kitchen work. DO invite family B , you are very right we are short of relatives abroad and need a good circle

Lol. yeah that’s what TLK mentioned. Quite surprised to know you managed among Bangladeshis. There is no doubt, you gone through more tough time than me. Yes, I have the open Kitchen. I think I will have to learn managing like that