Re: help please!
His friends used to say that a lot to him..
To everyone else, thank you for your opinions. I guess he’s also like my best friend so it’s really difficult for me to break out of this relationship. This is why I honestly believe arranged marriages are better - at least your heart isn’t tangled up in the mess so you can think it through logically!
It’s just such a clash of cultures Sometimes I feel like I’m on a different planet to him He doesn’t mind coming to the UK for a while but eventually he wants to settle in pakistan because he feels the responsibility of his parents and siblings there.
Becoming a doctor is definitely my passion in life. It’s something I honestly genuinely enjoy more than any other career or experience, despite all the disadvantages that come with it (stress, hard work, long hours etc). But he just doesn’t like it because of the hours etc. He told me that none of the ladies in the upper class in Pakistan work.. and I was like.. but why does that apply to me?
He has treated me really really well up till now and I know he’s a genuine honest person. His influence is really strong on me. When I was applying to university, he told me to go to one particular place and even though I initially didn’t want to, I did it. I spent the whole of the first term totally regretting my decision and it’s only now I’m slowly coming to terms with it (qadr of Allah) but this is exactly what I don’t want happening regarding all of my other decisions in my life. I listen to him so readily that I would have actually not gone to medschool if it wasnt for the fact I had already applied by the time he told me.
Just typing this is making me feel so upset. I honestly feel trapped between a genuine guy who is the only person I’ve ever imagined being with vs. everything else that makes up my life