help needed in dealing with 12 years daughter

Monk · January 7, 2016, 1:28am

Re: help needed in dealing with 12 years daughter

I agree with member “TLK”, “diamond321”, "khattichic " , "StrangeOne ".

Me and my sister visited one Psychologist, and this is what he said, that its more due to transition from kid to teenage.

Please advise how to deal with daughter during this transition. I am just worried she do not become stubborn and aggressive from this very young age. I don’t want her to be spoiled. She is really nice, intelligent and normally remains in top 3 students of her class.

Also, I notice, my niece always tries to giver her 100% in whatever she do. Means she goes for “perfection” and if she do not achieve “perfection”, she minds this a lot and tears appears in her eyes.

Personally, I was the victim of this “perfectionism” phenomena which I corrected after my senior colleagues identified during work and said you go for perfectionism which is good, but eats a lot time and normally this is not good approach as it holds you on one DOT until you resolve it perfectly then you move on. I have notice same for me, that I takes lots of efforts which require more time than normal. However, I have tried to fix this issue with myself, and its very difficult for me to fix this issue, but I keeps myself reminding that I should not get lost into task for the pursuit of perfectionism. In my view, achieving perfectionism has both +ve and -ve effects, but I think it has more “-ve” than “+ve”, because in real life there are many things to do in parallel and if we stuck on one point then we’ll lost other tasks.

you program in python, dont you ?