Help , my teenager daughter is seeing a guy !

[Bobby1]

Re: Help , my teenager daughter is seeing a guy !

@geoaurgenaydo

I am afraid u r right that she will continue to meet him.. What I am shocked to find out is the fact that she is not really interested in him nor is the boy probably … And they both are probably just passing time. How can I allow this to happen? What can I do to stop it ?

Not sure what u mean by that she doesn’t trust me.. Trust me with what ? Do u mean she doesn’t trust me to come up to me and tell me her stories about the boy. Of course she knows very well that I will never approve of this behavior. I have never stopped her from interacting or having friendship with boys as long as it is within the limits and the relationship is healthy. But I cannot give her permission to cross the boundaries Do u think parents should give up their values and principles just to gain thier kid’s trust ?

I am a result oriented person, in the west you can’t really force a teenager to do anything you just have to quietly tell her the right thing and stand by her, what she is doing is called experimenting, girls here will date many boys just to explore to see the kind of boys they like and then commit to the one they like, or not. Also they might be lonely or insecure or have peer pressures just let them grow up she will mature lots in a couple of years this is just how nature made teenagers. Be thankful she doesn’t like the loser. As for strictness my boy tells me about this Pakistani girl who comes from a very conservative maulvi family and her father beats her to a pulp yet behind his back she eats pork, dates and parties so if his forceful manners failed how will yours work, even the fear of honor killings hasn’t prevented this so no here force will not work only support and understanding will. Sit down with her and have a friendly heart to heart.