Re: Help , my teenager daughter is seeing a guy !
Yes, teenagers are going to explore but as a Muslim parent you should guide your daughter gently. That is a haq that your daughter has upon you as her mother even if it’s something she fails to understand or appreciate at this point in time. How far your daughter goes is something that you may not be able to monitor/control. But at least by speaking to her you will have done your zimaydari…agay us ki marzi. While I understand that a harsh or abrasive approach may backfire on you to where she rebels, but at the same time I personally am not in favor of such a laid-back/dheela-dhaala/laparwah/modern approach where even a major gunnah (zina or the potential for zina) is severely downplayed and treated with the attitude that explore karne do…saari hadain paar karne do. Exploration is natural …sure…and urinating and defecating are natural too…but one with a sound mind and sound iman exercises those urges within boundaries/limits. So, have a gentle and open and honest dialog with her. Telling her that she should tell this guy to bring a “rishta” was not honest on your part because I doubt you’d happily accept the rishta of a guy you see as a womanizer or loser. And teenagers can see through such lies…and it becomes like a joke to them. So continue talking to her…and then it 's up to her to decide when she wants to wake up.