HELP ME

Pakilover · February 3, 2006, 4:55pm

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no we want to get married because we r in love

nia_khan · February 3, 2006, 4:57pm

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Congratulations guys we have a solution.
no matter what pakilover is getting married.

Pakilover - Wish you all the best i hope life brings happiness to you. Please keep us updated with your adventures when you run from home.

Sadz · February 3, 2006, 4:58pm

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So the Prophet (PBUH) beat up kids and sent them into the army…

pakiluver, your going to join the army? or are you in the army? Your making a lot of rash decisions.

Pakilover · February 3, 2006, 4:59pm

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shweetdreamz:

pakiluva...ok u are very young to get married in my opinion. i would tell u to put that guy on hold and enjoy your life till you are like 25 and then get hitched. but its your own decision. i am assuming you are not independent. so if you do go for this guy against your parents wishes be prepared to not only be cut off from your family but totally dependent on this guy. its important to know exactly what u are getting yourself into and that the guy is extremely trustworthy and serious. (hello? he is 18...probably not financially stable) and analyze the situation .... why does this boy want to get married so soon? are his parents in favor of the marriage so early? one important question....will this guy get a greencard after getting married to you? on the other hand if his parents do not accept you or early marriage then you need to know how desi boys work....there is a huge chance of default by the guy if his parents are not supportive of the marriage. so be very careful. again i am assuming alot of things and i am still wondering why you would want to get married so early. however i wouldnt say you are doomed if you do because i know a girl who left her house to marry the guy she loved (she was 18) both of them were financially unstable and very young. after the girl ran away...parents agreed to marriage out of fear of shame in the community...she came back and they got nikaafied the respectful way and now she has a little boy and sounds very very happy everytime i speak to her.

HE IS #! YEARS OLD SO YES HE IS FINANCIALLY STABLE!!!

Sadz · February 3, 2006, 5:01pm

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Financially stable meaning what? He lives off of his parents money? or he has his own house and pays his own way?

Mehnaz · February 3, 2006, 5:03pm

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PL, you should really meet him first and then decide. It is very easy to become emotionally involved with someone over the net, but can be very different when the two of you actually meet. You may realise you don't really like him all that much, or vice versa.

Be careful and please don't make any rash decisions.

Even if you do join the army, there is no guarantee you will be stationed in Pakistan. The chances of you been shipped off to Iraq are a lot higher.

Sadz · February 3, 2006, 5:05pm

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Oh mylanta! I never thought about that. That is soo true. They dont need people in Pak, they would prolly want to ship her off to Iraq for their “war on terrorism”

Asif2000 · February 3, 2006, 5:09pm

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I guess #! means 31. just because he is 31 doesn't mean that he is financially stable by default. and just because you are engaged doesn't mean that you are mentally stable. even if he is financially stable, the age difference is too much. he is probably a father of 10. life isn't all about falling in love and getting married. get a clue.

the guy needs to be reported and gal needs help.

shweetdreamz · February 3, 2006, 5:40pm

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pakilover be honest with yourself.
you still havent answered the question. have u met him? because i thought you two live oceans away.
i am all for marrying him if you love him but analyze carefully in case u have never met him

he is 31
you are 17
you met online
you have never met each other.
yet you are ready to leave parents to marry him

regarding this marriage decision please analyze which of u two is pushing more for marriage.
i think everyone is thinking for your good here but they might be more knowledgable when it comes to understanding the psyche of desi minds.

ImranQ · February 3, 2006, 7:55pm

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don't be stupid

SD where are u i was lookin for ya allover gs

Lusi · February 3, 2006, 8:07pm

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Just want to add a few more things to the above list..

He is in pakistan
You are an american citizen

I think either he is flirting with you or he wants to fool you to get green card.
Did he ask you for your home phone # so he can talk to your father (parents)?

Barfee · February 3, 2006, 9:06pm

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Being 30 and unmarried doesnt sound fishy but him being in pakistan and being in love with a girl more than a decade younger is. Pakilover if i were you i would think about it ten million times before taking a step.

Pakilover · February 6, 2006, 3:31pm

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im going to joing the army 2 years from now then stay in it for 2 years as a military lawyer.

Pakilover · February 6, 2006, 3:33pm

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a lawyer doesnt go to any other country or anyplace except base camp

Pakilover · February 6, 2006, 3:44pm

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yes he did but they said all calls to and from Pakistan are suspended!

MYwish · February 6, 2006, 4:25pm

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he asked me to marry him first but i needed to tell him how old i really was then i asked him to marry me and he said yes!
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he got his virgin on earth.

Pakilover · February 6, 2006, 7:08pm

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he is also a virgin

Lusi · February 6, 2006, 7:30pm

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who is they? If he, the guy you met online said that then he is wrong…

Pakilover · February 7, 2006, 1:12pm

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it was me who called him first and the phone opporator. then he tried to call me and the phone lines were always busy

fghd · February 7, 2006, 1:15pm

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Pakilover he is making a fool out of you