help me to learn how to let go

[parisbynight]

Re: help me to learn how to let go

@ekumunng

You already know the root cause of the problem, your sentiments and the habit of not letting things go. Never compare your life with others (your SIL e.g.), all aspects of their life are different than yours. Take a close look at your fingers, are they of the same length? If yes then your Father should behave like Father of your SIL, if not then there is hardly any reason to expect your Father will do anything similar to other guy.

New marriages are tricky in any situation. I would suggest you to focus on your marriage for at least a year before looking somewhere else to contribute or help. Your parents will be happy when they’ll see you happy in your new life. They have lived their lives before you were born, they will continue to live their lives after your marriage!

hmm but when i try to focus on the husband and mentioned my own life to my parents, I am told i changed and think of myself only.

it is the feeling that i am not needed anymore that i find it hard to deal with. I am used to take thigns in control when there are problems. Solve everyone issues and confort everyone. And now i am told that it has nothing to do with me so i should back off.