Re: help me to learn how to let go
#1](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=1) - Learn to defend your husband/marriage RIGHT now from people who are being jerks. You have a new family now (ie. your husband). While you still love your parents/siblings…your husband/marriage should be your #1](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=1) priority. Next time someone bashes your husband over something stupid like not getting a gift…tell them matter-of-factly that if they continue being disrespectful towards your husband in this manner, you won’t sit there and listen. Don’t cry or get emotional…simply state your position that you are on your husband’s side. If they continue to bash/argue…get up and walk out.
#2](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=2) - Same goes with money. If someone complains about having to contribute to the household expenses…tell them to discuss this matter with your dad b/c you have your own family to worry about now. Remind them that they are adults and should find a way to solve their own problems instead of whining to you like a child. Stop allowing others to disrespect you.
#3](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=3) - Your parents and siblings are adults and don’t NEED you to survive. You helped them while you were living with them and that’s great. But if you had died 10 years ago…they would have found a way to continue living their life. They are capable of living their life and solving their own problems without your involvement. I get that this sucks to hear but this is the reality and you need to accept it.
#4](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=4) - By staying so focused on your PAST…you are going to ruin your present/future with your husband. Marriage is a major life event and yes, people do change after marriage. Just like people change when they have a baby. This is a part of life and nothing to feel bad about. Being a girl who lived with her parents and helped them was a chapter of your life that is over. It was a good read while it lasted…but its over now and time for you to move on to the next chapter of your life.
#5](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=5) - What do you do to stay busy? Do you go to school or work? Volunteer? Hobbies? Anytime I hear someone having so much time and energy to mull over stuff like this…I always think they have too much free time. Keep yourself busy.