Re: Help me to escape overbearing in laws!
firstly thanks to all for their advice. Tempe5t, by that comment he meant that if I wasn’t willing to stick with the status quo then we need to look at if we stay together long term. We had this discussion whilst I was driving so I tried to tell him he was being over dramatic. I responded by calling him out on his melodramatic behaviour and that I wasnt questioning his commitment to his family but trying to create time for both of us as a couple in our own right. He got into a mood and didn’t want to discuss it further so I just left it. He did apologise to me later on that day and said he didn’t mean to act like that and acknowledged himself that he shouldn’t have said what he said.
His grandfathers health has been steadily declining over the last few years and I think that also doesn’t help matters because he feels guilt when he isn’t there at the family home. I still don’t think that excuses things though.
I’m willing to let all of the hurtful comments go but just trying to work out the best way forward.