Re: Help me to escape overbearing in laws!
Ive tried talking to my hubby about it but it always ends up with us fighting. He’s close to his parents and his grandparents (who also live there) and he once told me that he feels like he is caught in the middle and can’t make either his family or me happy. He loves to be surrounded by people and loves the hustle and bustle of his parental home whereas I’m the complete opposite and crave time at home.
I raised it again with him this weekend and he basically said that if I can’t accept things the way they are then we need to reconsider our relationship (!) I think that’s his way of telling me to back off…
The middle daughter in law lives next door to them and the other daughter in law of the family also lives in the same house (although they are moving out in the next few months) so I don’t feel like I can just stop turning up when they see me every day. In the past we tried having one day a week at home (but then something would always come up and my husband would be needed at home), I’ve tried cooking at home and taking it there (no one would touch my food and it would get thrown away), I’ve tried cooking and eating at home (when we got there both mother and father in law would be in a huff and mother in law would try and feed my husband again). My father in law has made comments in the past about how important it is for the family to stick together but I feel like there’s a limit to when sticking together for the good of the family suddenly becomes suffocating and damaging…